My fiance & I are both family oriented - we have both of our parents side that are close to and considered inviting. I don't want this "Big fat Greek wedding" kind of party. I thought 150 was fair for both of us and I just think it's important to have people there that have been there through the years (we were dating 6 years before he popped the question). With that number, we've had to cut a lot of other family members. Most couples in our family are married. He has one cousin who has been with his girlfriend for years (long term like us) and we've traveled and interacted with her here and there; another cousin he's close to has been with his girlfriend for 2 years but we've hung out with them outside of family parties.
My fiance is close to a group of his first cousins (they all grew up together); however, he's not close (individually) with Tom (Tom hangs out with the girls mostly). Tom is not in a relationship but has had a best girl friend for about 3 years now. We see her every now and then at family parties and we're cordial with her. I know she's one more person but we decided not to invite her. We don't know her well (even though we see her sometimes at family events) and we don't hang out with her or Tom outside of family parties. I do feel pressure bc Tom and his family are expecting her to be invited. Tom, his sister, and his friend were asking me all these wedding questions one day and I felt uncomfortable talking about it, especially bc I know we weren't going to invite her. Unlike typical weddings in their family (they usually go to a community center and get an outside caterer - $15-20/person), it will be a venue where the cost per head is $40-$50. Also, I like the intimacy of the wedding where you know each guest.
Thoughts? Also, I just don't want to get any crap for people "I should" be inviting when it's our wedding. He's also the type to get easily swayed by the women in his family too :/
