What do you expect of your bridesmaids?

My bridesmaids were all in different states. My only "expectations" for them were to purchase their dress, wear any pair of silver shoes, and fly into town the day before the wedding to attend the rehearsal + rehearsal dinner. And of course, show up to the wedding in the specified attire! My MOH did end up co-hosting a bridal shower for me with a family friend, which was very nice, but not expected. I didn't have a bachelorette party, because it would have been too difficult to organize with every person being in a different part of the country.

1. Them to come to my wedding
2. Them to get a dress in the color I asked for
3. Them to hang out with me morning of my wedding day4. Have some sort of bachelorette thing.
My girls were amazing. I actually did not expect or anticipate any of them coming to my shower as they were all out of state from where the shower took place (my mom and aunt hosted). But they wanted to come so did, and organized all the games, which was awesome. My MOH was across the country so I wasn’t sure she’d be able to come to a bachelorette but we were able to plan around her trip out for the wedding, so we all got to hand out for that too . They brought the dance party at my wedding, which is all I can really ask for haha

My expectations are to simply come to the wedding, be supportive, and help me hold up my dress so I can pee!

My bridesmaids are also my sisters and have volunteered to throw me a bachelorette (everyone will be covering their own cost) and a few other things which they didn't need to do but is greatly appreciated.

1. Wear a dress in the color I picked out. (They decided to go above and beyond and all pick the same dress and teased me about it. I was fine with just the color/fabric, and maybe the length.)

2. Help me celebrate a little with a shower and/or bachelorette. (The cake one of my BMs made for my shower was WAY above and beyond and I adore her. We had so much cake I took it to work.)

3. Show up for rehearsal/day of wedding, and help me day of wedding.

It would have been awesome if they could have helped with the DIY stuff, but unfortunately our schedules tended to never work that well. Sometimes one or two of them were able to come with me for my alterations appointments, but we're all in the arts, so I never expected that. The friend who came to my last appointment wasn't a BM, but she was able to film and narrate the bustling, which worked out great!

If my mother had come, one of them had already volunteered to babysit her so she wouldn't cause a scene. But that didn't happen, so they could have fun.

Oh wow. With all bridesmaids like that, I wouldn't expect much other than to attend the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes, i agree with this. It's demanding a lot to expect bridemaids from different states to attend a bachelorette party as well.

Buy a dress in the color I selected. Come to the rehearsal if able. Show up to the wedding. Smile for photos.

My bridesmaids are all in different states. My only expectation is that they show up to the wedding wearing a dress in the length and color that I specify.

All that I am expecting is for them to get the dress and show up the day before for the rehearsal (I am paying for their travel fees and lodging them) and then show up for the wedding! Both of mine are far away so I am not expecting anything else of them.

All I expected of mine was for them to show up on time to the wedding in a dress of the right colour, fabric, and length.

To show up to the wedding wearing the correct dress and some kind of shoes.

The most minimal I guess is get the dress and show up aha and then anything beyond that is up to them.

The only thing I expect is of them is look pretty and have fun.


The ladies I picked all have to travel so I'm not expecting anything prior to the wedding weekend.

Show up in requested attire (picked with their budget and comfort in mind.) That's it.

Wear the dress and shoes that we've picked out.

Get their hair and makeup done.

Spend the morning of the wedding with me, getting ready.

Smile and pose for the photos.

If a bridesmaid can't make it to the bachelorette then so be it. Unfortunate but cannot be helped.