Brides of Covid issue... My fiance and I were supposed to get married this past fall, but because of the state of the virus, we decided it was best for us to postpone. For several reasons, we decided to push it back an entire year to November 2021. When we sent out notices of the postponement, we gave our new wedding date and said to consider the notice a save-the-date.
A problem we now have is that the guest list we made nearly a year ago is not really reflective of who we would choose to have at our wedding now. 2020 was a weird year and a lot happened to change the dynamics of our social circle. There are people who we invited that are now not really a part of our lives. Other people who weren't on our list and didn't get an invite have become closer to us and we'd like to invite them now.
A priority for our wedding has always been that we want it to be small and intimate, with only people who are truly important to us and active in our lives and we feel like our guest list doesn't reflect that now. There's also the issue of our budget. We can't really afford to add more people to our list and it's frustrating feeling like we have to include people we don't really want there anymore when there are other people we'd like to invite instead.
Within this problem is the following situation. There's one person who is among the people we originally invited but are no longer close to at all, and they've stirred up childish drama among several people in our friend group (drama not involving us) and we're worried that if this person comes to the wedding, it will prevent other people we truly want to be there from coming. It's going to suck if this person who is no longer a part of our lives (and, tbh, who we no longer like) is at our wedding and others who are close to us are not, because of them.
I know uninviting people is a huge etiquette faux pas, unless there is a very compelling reason and most would agree that "we don't talk anymore" (or even "we don't like you anymore") isn't really a compelling reason. Had our wedding gone forward as originally planned, our original guest list would have been okay. But, a lot of water has gone under the bridge in the months since we decided to postpone. We've gone through a lot to have the wedding we want. Deciding to wait an entire year was so difficult! I don't want anything to take away from our special day--especially the people who are present to share in the day with us.
Any suggestions, insights, or words of wisdom appreciated!
