Hi everyone. I’m in a deep pickle right now. I’m having a Pakistani wedding which requires a beautiful gown for the reception. I had a vision in mind but couldn’t go overseas to pick my own dress. I had my mom go there and pick my bridal dress along with my aunt, who actually flew overseas to help. They have good knowledge of what is in fashion and what works well.
While they were there I did give them pictures of exactly what I wanted but did not hear back from them at all. When my mom came back, I then just saw pictures of the dress. I was told that the dress was gifted by my aunt and uncle and my grand mother. The pictures didn’t do justice and I just wasn’t in love with it, but I stayed quiet because I know all the effort that was put into it and and especially as it was a gift.
I finally decided I would find my own dress and politely break the news to my mom later. So I submitted a deposit and broke the news. It didn’t go well needless to say. Because it would mean I am unappreciative of the efforts there were put in and the time and money spent. As well as not appreciating my relatives effort and love. Again the dress is beautiful, I finally saw it in person, but it’s not my vision.
I feel so silly to fight over something like a dress but I was always told that it’s my day and I should do what I want to do. But where do you draw the line without hurting feelings and seeming unappreciative ?? What would you do in this situation? Part of me is like let me go and just wear it for everyone’s happiness. But the other part of me is like, I’ve always done what makes others happy, so why not do what I want to do on my big day?? But it means a lot of feelings will be hurt and breaking traditions etc. and just seeming ungrateful. At The moment I seem like an ungrateful bridezilla. Please help!
