What do i do when family members don't get along?

Invite who you want. I’m inviting a few members I’d rather not, my parents requested they be invited so I’m inviting them and praying there’s no drama.

Is it possible to sit down everyone separately and discuss your concerns, and such?

I’d invite them all and be hopeful-I’m kind of in the same boat. FH’s divorced parents don’t get along great, and neither does is maternal grandmother and his father but they’ll all be there, I hope it goes well.

Do whatever FH wants. Who is he closer too? Who does he want there to celebrate? Maybe he want to invite to all? Or no one. This is his call.

I'd invite the people your FH wants to be there. If that means both the cousins and the aunts and uncles, then simply assign this should aren't getting along to tables on opposite sides of your reception hall.

We are inviting a few people who do not get along with each other and since our wedding is small (20 ppl) they will definitely see and interact with each other. We couldn't take a side and chose some of these people over others since everyone is important to us even if they do not get along. FH and I sat down with these people (separately) explained that "Archnemesis" is being invited too and that we hope everyone can be adults and put their differences aside for one day but, obviously we will understand if they don't feel like they will be able to. So far everyone has agreed since it is important to us that they be there.

You have a little over a year until your wedding and a lot can change in that time. For now, I'd plan to tentatively invite whomever you and FS would want to invite if there was no family drama. Once you get closer to finalizing the guest list you can decide what to do.

Good luck!

My parents' divorce left a bad taste in both sides of the family. Luckily every stayed civil during my wedding day. If you think they can keep it together invite who you are comfortable inviting.

I would follow your fiance's lead on this one, but if he's close to his aunt and uncles then I think they should be invited. If he is not involved in any of what is going on, then he should not play into the dynamics and choose favorites/sides. I think it would be unfair of either side, the aunt/uncles or their children to expect him to.

Try inviting both sides and tell them to be civil for a few hours for FH and your sake, They're all adults right? Hopefully they'd be able to do so.

Invite the guests you want to have present and put them on notice that you expect them to behave civilly at the wedding. If they can't do that, they are free to leave at any time.

I would invite all the people you truly want - if they can't get along oh well, If they cause a scene ask them to leave. If they threaten to not attend, tell them you will miss them.