What did you find the hardest thing about postponing?

We struggled with actually making the decision to postpone. Once we did, it was a relief. After postponing, it was difficult to get excitement back for our wedding (since our wedding is sitting at 90% planned and is now two years out), but I'm sure more of that excitement will return closer to our new date.

Your invitations were gorgeous!


We had an elopement but decided to reschedule our big ceremony to next year on our elopement anniversary. The hardest part has been seeing everything ready to go for the ceremony that was supposed to happen in three weeks. The not knowing if we’ll even be able to have our ceremony next year is the worse. I kinda see it as pointless to have a big ceremony at this point but my husband still wants it.

We postponed from October 2020 to October 2021. Like you, I’ve been totally fine with it. But for us, the worst part is that we went from an already long 21-month engagement to an extra long 33-month engagement. 🤦🏽‍♀️ 😆 But thankfully everything is done. So we get to simply enjoy the extra time. We hadn’t purchased invitations yet, since we postponed back in June. But we did buy new save the date cards. So our original STD’s are the only things wasted due to postponing.

Our wedding was supposed to be in April and calling everyone mid March to tell them it wasn’t happening was heartbreaking. I spent the whole day crying (while still trying to communicate to people). Equally as bad was on our supposed to be wedding day was all the texts from people saying how sad it was we weren’t getting married that day! I know the texts were supposed to make it better but it only reminded me of how much I lost that day. I’m glad we did it because it was the right choice. Still a hard decision though

The most difficult was waiting longer to marry my best friend

I had my original save the dates I sent out in January for our June wedding. Then I sent out our real invitations MARCH 10 for the real wedding. That was a waste of $150. I was so pissed. Then I sent out change the dates to change our date to December of this year, and last month I sent a second (and last) change the date to December of 2021. That’s it. I’m done. We will send one more round of invites late next year but Minted has enough of my money.

View Quoted Comment Go get legally married then. Me and DH got legally married months ago but we had to push our June 2020 date to Dec 2020 and now to Dec 2021. I can wait that long for our celebration but not that long to call him my husband. So we didn’t.

We postponed our October 10, 2020 wedding early on (April/May) for October 7, 2021. The actual thought of postponing and then actually postponing was such a relief! My fiancé was laid off in March because of Covid and officially separated from his company in August. So early on we knew this was the right decision for us. The hardest part is going from a longer engagement 2.5/3 years to now 3.5/4 years 🙁 We wanted to start trying for a baby shortly after the wedding so now we’ll wait for that as well.

View Quoted Comment I can sympathize with the frustration of the double postponement, how annoying!


For us we wouldn’t feel married without the whole shebang but the way I see it is one more year doesn’t change our relationship so I have no issue waiting, at least briefly haha. I bloody hope by Dec 21 everything is back to normal!

View Quoted Comment Being married is what you make of it. This year has sucked, but hey, the first year of marriage is supposed to be the hardest anyway. If we can weather this-we are golden! I hated that I have had such a crappy experience with all of this as we all have. But I decided to make light of it. My company’s insurance is far better than my husband’s, we now get the marriage tax break, and I had to have surgery a few months ago and I wanted him as my next of kin god forbid. It’s all what makes sense to you.

Honestly, everyone told us that it would be best to postpone, but my fiancee and I decided to switch to a new venue instead. We didn't want to postpone no matter what, because we both agreed that if we did it, than we'd probably cancel and try again years later.