What current trends are you not including?

Weddings should be a celebration and I’m considering mines as a Wedding P-A-R-T-Y. If this your first wedding, then yeah go traditional so you can experience it. As for me, I’m doing EVERYTHING non-traditional. I’m wearing a black wedding dress (worn white before with my late hubby), the wedding party will dance down the aisle (no boring slow music please), the guest will eat & drink while we take pictures (why have guest starving while you’re taking pictures), I’m having a sweetheart table where it’s just the bride & groom (the wedding party usually leave the table and don’t come back), a game or two (with gifts) will be played with guests to heighten the party. I’m not doing the bouquet or ring toss (I’ve seen people fight or get knocked out unconscious). These are some of the things I’ve observed from other people weddings and I want to put the F-U-N in mines.

I’m not doing a website or a hashtag. Just don’t see the point.

We got married almost two years ago and we skipped a welcome party and just had a rehearsal dinner with immediate family and the bridal party and we also skipped bridesmaids/groomsmen proposal boxes.

I want to skip the hashtag trend. Guests rarely use it anyway.

We are skipping welcome bags for out of town guest and all the extra events (welcome party and post wedding brunch) that seem to be so common these days. I can only afford 1 event.

Hmm. Let's see. We are not doing the 'link arms and walk across a field laughing' photos that are so popular - we want very candid photos with as little posing as possible.

It also seems pretty popular for couples and/or their bridal party to do some kind of 'performance' - some kind of choreographed dance or similar - we definitely will not do anything like that.

We also don't want long speeches. Basically, we want all of the responsibility-type things where people feel they need to be 'on' to be over with as soon as possible so we can all just have a lovely time living in the moment and really enjoying ourselves!

View Quoted Comment Yes, I love the candid shot photos.

I’m not really up with the current trends and what’s a recent thing versus something that’s been around for a while. But we aren’t doing any kind of a “unity” thing.

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Yeah, I guess it's not current but I don't want that. I've seen some nice ones, but those usually have bride's and groom's kids adding to the unity (sand/candle/whatever) but all our children are grown and I don't see stepmother or stepfather every coming out of their mouths LOL

Oh donuts? I love donuts, but I want cake and frosting all the way!

Not doing the "first look" thing. I'm old school in that regard and I want him to see me in my dress when I walk down the aisle. Also skipping the special exit thing from the reception and avoiding a bridal party

Since I'm not having a wedding, I can't particularly answer this, but taking cues from my wedding and what I wouldn't do if I were a bride now:

Multi-day bachelorette parties. I think weddings are inconveniencing your friends enough without also making them take several days off and pay for multi-day parties.

First look. I actually genuinely am confused by the people who say this alleviates stress - the idea of meeting my to-be-husband in front of nothing but a photographer/videographer for the first time seems like Anxiety Central to me. I would feel obligated to put on a performance and it wouldn't be natural or genuine - when I walked down the aisle, I was so excited that I couldn't help but be myself and wasn't even thinking about the photographer.

Unity anything. I remember racking my brain looking at unity items - candles, sand, etc. - and just not finding anything that I said "yes, I want this to sit in my house for years after the wedding."

Hashtags. I feel like for some people, this is super cute and totally worth it. I certainly have friends whose entire family and friends circle is intimately familiar with and tied to Instagram and whatever else uses hashtags. For them, this is absolutely a valid "trend". But mine definitely does not fall into that category, and neither does my husband's. It would never get used.

Snapchat filters. Same as above. Cute concept, cute if at least 50% of your guest list uses Snapchat, not so much in any other scenario.

Photobooths. These were kind of cool back when I got married because you still had to actually rent one of those full booths like you saw at fairs/carnivals and malls. It was very bougie and kitschy, but that was the point and there was some appeal to that. Now, anyone with a saw and a basic ability to use a drill can build a frame to throw some paper/canvas panels on and toss an old iPad in it and call it a photobooth.

Donut walls. I don't like donuts, first of all. I also don't quite understand the appeal of hanging them on a wall as opposed to any other display method.

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Same!! If people want information I'd rather they just ask and I don't want people really posting pictures before I get a chance to

Not doing choreographed dances, favors, grand entrance, photo booth, end-of-the-night food. Although as a guest I would probably enjoy all of the above.

Oh I forgot out grand entrances, I don't think we are doing that. We plan to come to the last half of cocktail hour and mingle, so will just go into the reception when everyone else does.

We're not having a hashtag

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Yes - the unity thing is so true! I don't want a glass jar of sand or half-burnt candle or whatever that I feel obliged to cart from house to house and feel guilty about throwing out.

We are not really doing anything that we'd have to keep - even our guestbook, is going to actually be a bunch of wine bottles which we will drink on a few successive anniversaries, and people can sign them with glass pens. I know I'd never really read a guest book ever again, and it's a piece of ephemera you feel required to keep, but don't actually ever look at. Whereas at least wine is useful!

A wedding hashtag. I don't see the point. I think these became obsolete now that we're able to just tag the person in the picture.

We are renting a beachfront property that sleeps 18, having a sunrise wedding, a catered breakfast/ brunch w/ simple chic decor, and then going snorkeling and tequila tasting as a group. Then we might fire up the grill and chill around the pool with drinks and music at the end of the evening. When we return to our home state, we'll have a reception/ dinner for the rest of our family and friends. I really don't like loud music + partying/ clubbing and I don't dance, but I would be willing to suffer through such for my FH's sake ( he has a big family), especially if my actual wedding day is how I envision it

View Quoted Comment Same girl. We are having a bit of a destination wedding (in our neighboring state). But I can’t afford but one event.