What are bridesmaids supposed to pay for

At first, I was very concerned about this. My FH and I have 7 people on each side, and 4 are married or together, and two of those couples their children are in the wedding. We wanted to be as cost-effective as possible, however, when it came down to it, it is our day. We are not being unreasonable by any means, but as my MOH told me when you accept the role of being in a wedding you also accept the role of putting out some money to do so. I would talk with this bridesmaid. From now until March is PLENTY of time to set aside money for a dress. You can easily find gorgeous dresses for under $100. This is not an unreasonable request by any means, for most lifestyles/careers/people.

It also helps that my FH has been in 3 of the 4's weddings and I have been in one. So when we compared to the cost we paid to be in their's it made us feel better.

Everyone does their wedding different, but most of the time, bridesmaids pay for their own dress and hair. I paid for my bridesmaids accessories, it’s really up to you and your budget. For your friend, maybe she can borrow money from
someone, but you have enough to worry about and shouldn’t have to worry about how she’s going to be able to afford everything.

I had my bridesmaids pay for there own dress show makeup and hair. I brought of there jewelry . Now if one of them didn’t have money to be in the wedding I wouldve Give them something to do at the wedding. For example sitting guest or pass programs

My girls paid for their own dresses. I’m not requiring specific hair or makeup. But I am requiring certain jewelry which I’m paying for.

I only have a MOH and the only thing I'm having her pay for is her dress, shoes, and accessories (shoes and accessories can be whatever she wants). I will be paying for her hair and make-up, any style she chooses. I'll probably also pay for her two daughter's flower girl dresses.

I think most people would say they should pay for their dress and show-up. Make-up and hair should be optional unless you are paying for it to be a specific style/color.

View Quoted Comment Your own hairdresser could probably fit them in too if they wanted it. If you aren’t requiring it to be professionally done then you don’t have to cover it, it’s just a nice gesture.

In your case, I would probably be really flexible about BM dresses. I know black may not be your first choice, but something like that would be so easy for most girls to find or they would already have. That was you and your BM don't have to worry about who's paying. Your girls don't need hair and makeup. point is, i think you have to decide between picking a dress you know a friend can't pay for or adjusting your BM "vision" to include the people you love.

The bridesmaid pays for her dress. Anything else you require, you pay for: shoes, hair, makeup, jewelry, shawl, whatever.

A bridesmaid's "duties" are to show up in the dress, stand with the bride during the ceremony, and smile for the pictures. That. Is. All. No parties, no decorating, no clean-up, no service.

The "maid" in "bridesmaid" refers to a young woman, not a servant.

I would pick a low budget dress (under $100) and tell them ASAP so they have time to save. Make HAMU optional so they can do their own and don't have to pay for it.

View Quoted Comment Yes, this is like the #1 tip! Get a dress that she can find on Poshmark or mercari! There are so many lulus dresses on there that have been worn once by bridesmaids.

You don't have to pay for any of the above. Normally when they accept they should know that a dress is on their tab. You can give them the option to get their hair and makeup done. If they can do it themselves more power to them!