We're eloping. Can/should we register?

I would create a registry and then if people ask you can point them to it. Plus, you often get deals/coupons/freebies from the store for doing so. I wouldn't tell anyone you registered unless they ask you.

I think that would be rude. If people want to, they'll send cash

I agree with Kate, it comes off as gift grabby.

I would create one if only to get a discount on items I wanted to buy myself. But I wouldn't share it with people, unless an aunt or an uncle or someone specifically asked me.

I don't think I'd do this, honestly, at least not at the time of the wedding ceremony. If you're going to have a bigger 'celebration of marriage" later on, with invitations, etc, I think it would be useful (at that time) because people WILL probably want to give you gifts.

No. you're eloping and forgoing anything that comes with traditional wedding.

FW and I are not eloping but we are having a private ceremony just the two of us. We are also not hosting any sort of reception with family afterwards. We were asked by family members where we were registered, knowing fully what our plans were. In that case we felt made the decision to make a small registry. We do not announce that we are registered to anyone other than family who ask outright.

Yes. make a registry. Your family and friends will want to support you from afar whether they physically witness your marriage ceremony or not. It is not gift grabby until you post your registry on a Facebook status update asking for gifts. If you have a registry link to provide to people who specifically ask you for one, your registry serves it's intended purpose whether its for a couple hosting a wedding, or eloping.

@Sloth, elopements are traditional weddings in every sense of the term. People have been doing it for a very, very long time.

As usual, my vote is w @Celia. Not until, an if, you have the celebration for people to have the opportunity to celebrate w you!

I would side eye it if you didn't have any sort of celebration.

If you're planning on waiting to have a reception or celebration I would do the registry then. I would definitely be judging you if you sent me a registry link for something I wasn't even invited to. Those who want to will send you a check without you asking for it.

Another vote to create but not announce unless asked.

UO here, but I'd be more likely to give a gift if I heard about your elopement than at a celebration of marriage later. I agree don't send it out/advertise it unless people ask, but I would make the setting for the registry public. If a friend/family member was eloping, I would probably look up the couple on the usual registry places, BBB, Target, Macys, Amazon, and see if they are registered.

It may make me a horrible person, but I probably won't give more than a card or a $20 present to a celebration of marriage party, regardless of how fancy it is, unless it was my own parents or sibling. You are already married at that point. No present then.

ETA: I wouldn't send out wedding announcements either though. Those are weird to me and kinda gift grabby. I'd just do word of mouth that people will find out you are engaged and will find out when you are married.

Even if you're having a huge wedding, you don't announce a registry. No, you don't include with the invitations the registry cards that the stores give you.

Large or small wedding or an elopement, you don't mention it unless someone asks.

Go ahead and make the registry. Even if no one purchases from it, you'll get discounts.

@Nancy T, I think the exception is that with a wedding with guests you can include the link to your wedding website on your invitations or save the date, which then includes registry info (and other info: RSVP, hotel info, timeline, etc.). So it isn't listing the registry directly, but most people find it that way.

With the elopment she isn't sending save the dates or invites, so there is no place to tell people the wedding website- and in that case the wedding website should not be emailed to people or announced in any way.

Tacky. Send an announcement (pinterest has cute ideas). You will probably get a few cards from people wishing to congratulate u. Its way more tasteful that way.

No, sorry, I would not register. That is an obvious selfish, gift grab move. If I am not invited to a wedding, I do not do gifts. Sorry, that is just my thoughts.

No I would not do a registry.

Eh go ahead and do it. People will either use it or they won't.