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Michelle
Super October 2020

Went ring shopping, when do you think he'll propose?

Michelle, on March 4, 2019 at 1:28 PM

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time but I was just ready to get engaged last year since we're doing well financially and it seems like the right time for both of us. We finally talked a few weeks ago about being engaged for at least a year to plan a wedding in summer or fall, what...

My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time but I was just ready to get engaged last year since we're doing well financially and it seems like the right time for both of us. We finally talked a few weeks ago about being engaged for at least a year to plan a wedding in summer or fall, what size of a wedding, and he said he planned to this year on a special date and wanted it to be a special surprise.

I needed more clarification so later I asked for a more defined timeline rather than "this year". So now I know it'll happen before we leave for vacation with his family in September (He knows I wouldn't want a proposal in front of his family if my family isn't there). We also went ring window shopping to get ideas and get sized. Since then, he hasn't said a word and I'm thinking it is because he doesn't want to lose the surprise element. He somehow always manages to surprise me even after all these years in little ways.

Honestly, talking about it was fun but at the same time I didn't want to learn more because I like the idea of a surprise. At the same time it is making me very anxious and I don't want to keep pressuring him to give me more details if it is a surprise. The only hint I got was a "special date" which I assume is our anniversary in July but other than that I have no clue. Maybe when I graduate with my MBA in May, the trip to San Francisco next month when we go to wine country, I'm not sure. So I have about 4 months of obsessing over when.

I know you all won't have the answer to my question but did you have an idea when your fiance was going to propose without him telling you the date? If I had to put my money on it, I would assume by our anniversary because he's just that "type".

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    Savvy October 2019
    Amanda ·
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    I completely feel you! I was tortured knowing my boyfriend bought a ring and it was sitting in the drawer of his dresser in our house! But I’m glad I stopped asking “when” so that when the time finally came it was perfect and everything I could’ve imagined it to be! It’s definitely easier said than done lol!
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    Distract yourself with something else, let it go and find something else to obsess about or else you'll go nuts trying to figure it out. Lol, maybe he's waiting for you to chill out so he can really surprise you. I know how anxious all this makes us but the only thing that results in is added stress. Our significant others can sense so much more from us than we think, you might be making him a little nervous so do both of you a favor and just distract for a bit! Your day will come!!

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    Devoted October 2019
    Liz ·
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    That's not a good idea. I know how it feels to really want to be engaged/married though (believe me!) It's not a good look
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  • FutureMrsB
    Expert March 2019
    FutureMrsB ·
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    I felt the same way you did!! UGH My FH and I were together 5 years before he proposed... I ended up catching on to the fact that it was happening soon and I couldnt help myself so I started asking question to get a better idea as to when.. Ended up figuring it out.. then I was counting down to the day... but it didnt happen... he did it weeks later and even though it was super sweet the way it happened, the surprise element wasnt there.. I knew it was coming sooner or later..


    As hard as it might be, try to wait and let it be a surprise! I will say go ahead and start getting ideas and really narrowing down what you want for colors and a theme, destination and dates! That way when it happens you can hit the ground running with all this planning youll have to do! Smiley smile


    Good luck!!

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  • Michelle
    Super October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Yeah, it's like "about time!" You wanna go ahead and do it but good advice.

    Thanks all!

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