Welp, it happened 🙄

Wow a plus one for a teenager! That's gutsy!

I didn't do the same as you but I addressed the envelope to my cousin, her boyfriend and my cousin's 18yr old daughter so that it was clear that is who is invited. Side note, it's an adults only wedding/reception. So she returns the RSVP with 4 people listed and says "this is my bfs daughter, she's 6 and she won't eat much at all". I am not close with this cousin so I had to ask another cousin that is close with her to please let her know that 1) it's adults only 2) we don't have room for extra people added in. Also I have a great Aunt and uncle that took it upon themselves to add in their needs to go to rehab, needs to be baby-sat 50yr old daughter that I don't think I've ever said a word to in my life. I just let that one go and included her at their table but does NO ONE know etiquette for weddings? You can't just add people that you want to come. It's so rude.

People are the worst sometimes, I swear. Do you plan on reaching out to them about this or letting it slide?

Yea people are legit the worse about these kind of things

The same thing happened to me last week!

I don’t know your family situation, but could one of your parents or another family member let your cousin know that the 6 year old isn’t welcome?

Are so annoying I would politely respond and say I’m sorry but our guest list is already limited and we have had to cut it down multiple times so unfortunately your daughter will not be able to attend the reception but she is more than welcome to come to the ceremony

People are sooo rude.

I saw this on Pinterest and thought of everyone who is struggling with uninvited children. The “none” is printed in the space for “# of kids”.

Clears up any confusion. 🤪

It is not just for weddings. People do have dressy dinner parties, formal dances ( fundraisers) and award dinners and graduations, where they send a formal written invitation. It astounds me when people are 30-70 years old, and cannot yet figure out,
1. Mail, or invitations, is only for the person or persons it is addressed to.
2. When it has 2 lines, and comes with the number 2 next to seats reserved, it does not mean 3 to 6. Or as hubby's cousin and uncle did, think it means they can put down up to 2 full meals per person if they are big eaters?
My 8 year old says, maybe they have such bad manners, no one ever invites them anywhere? ( The reason we give our kids for why they need to practice good manners ). Even when you go to the movies, or a concert, or a ball game it is 1 ticket for each person. But then they probably watch life in their living room or cave, and never go out .

We only had one person do this, my husband's stepmother's brother (who we aren't very close with at all - we invited him to be nice to his stepmother and make her happy). He crossed out "1" and only filled out his name, then when his stepmother reached out to get his plus ones name (by the way - no one knew he was in a relationship or had even heard about his new girlfriend - his wife had passed away about a year prior and this was his wife's best friend he was dating but he didn't share that with anyone) he got flustered and mad and said he wouldn't know if she was coming until the day of? Then just said never mind I won't go at all. It was SO weird. I was even going to let it slide and bring his plus one, I just needed her name for the seating chart!

One of my cousins is trying to pull this right now. She's trying to get me to invite her boyfriend.... the one I have NEVER met. Now she's throwing a hissy fit and is threatening not to come.

Bye Felicia.

So we haven't had any ballsy people do this to us. Only FH's military friends asking to bring a plus one (either in place of his gf who probably can't attend or just in general from another friend). I was like what? He already sent in his RSVP, no he doesn't get a plus one and why ask after he sent it like a month ago. People are weird.

I did the same thing, I did not give options for any other than I invited or knew about. I put #___ seats in your honor" on mine. I have had no phone calls, most of them RSVPed yes with no issue...the ones with kids that I had "adult reception only" is either getting a baby sitter or not coming...however I had one ballsy friend mark out my 1 for her and put a 2 and write his name in big bold letters...I was pissed to no end...I have decided to let it go, I don't have to talk to him LOL but for them to do it for a teenager without asking you or even giving a courtesy call that would upset me too. I think people don't understand the cost or the respect for these matters especially when it is at no cost to them.

We also came to the conclusion that if you show up after you say no, or you bring an extra guest they will not be eating or have a seat. I know it sounds harsh but our venue wants payment and head count in advance and there just won't be room.....they can bring a camping chair and sit on the golf course out side with the rest of the folks who did the same thing. LOL its so stressful to plan a wedding in the first place and me as a bride and seeing the cost, I am putting my foot down LOL

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This website needs a like an love button for these comments! I love it...NONE hahaha I went to the trouble of making sure I had big bold letters that said "ADULT RECEPTION ONLY!" NONE would have been better! LOL

We are planning on having paper invites to keep the adults happy (and to have keepsakes for ourselves) but online ONLY RSVPs. This way we can't have people write in ANYTHING. It allows you to choose a meal and select attending or not attending for only the people that were on the original RSVP list. Plus it halves the postage cost.

My ceremony is in an art gallery and, in order to avoid having to buy insurance, I'm banning children from the ceremony outside of my (10 year old) flower girl. I'm having a super relaxed reception at a friend's house so people can bring kids if they want to that, but if they want to bring kids to the ceremony then they can foot the bill for the insurance. I've also expressly told everyone that if they want a +1 they need to speak to me individually about it since we have limited space. If they care about you they'll respect your wishes.