Weird or not?

That’s pretty extreme. Your bridal party isn’t your staff, they don’t need to attend meetings or receive updates on your planning.

To me that’s a little much but everyone’s different, I would just make sure your girls are okay with that. Mine didn’t know anything about planning besides what time to show up at the wedding and what dress to buy, which I sent by email.

I've never heard of it .a part of me thinks that's cool because you get a chance to see everyone and they can further get to know each other

Lol, don’t do that. You’ll have the bridal party feeling exhausted and never wanting to be a bridesmaid again.

I'd be happy to have that happen once LOL I wouldn't say weird, but it is different. If they don't mind though I don't see the harm

I hangout with my MOH everyvfew months to do updates and ideas but she loves it too. My bridal party I would text prob every few months for major things like "hey we picked a venue" or "my dress" or "just sent STDs" so you arent crazy but I do agree depends on the people and every month may be much depending your date but idk haha if they all like it or are ok then cool!

We see our entire bridal party pretty much every week because they are our best friends. We talk a little bit about the wedding just like we talk about what’s going on in everyone’s lives.
I would absolutely not get everyone together to give them updates on the wedding. They don’t need to know details about the flowers or the meal, nor do they want to. When you’re together you can definitely talk about big plans for the wedding but make sure to ask about their lives too. Your wedding is the most important thing to you, not them.

I think you could just send them an update over text/email instead. Always remember, your wedding feels like the most important event ever to you.. but it's really not that important to everyone else. Send the info over messages allows them to skim read through things they don't care about. They really don't need regular updates on things you've booked, etc. Just seems like a bit of a burden for your girls.

Depends on ur friends - have they said something?

This is very much a "know your crowd" issue. I'd guess most bridal parties would have NO need for this, but you know your friends. If they are not normally part of the same social group/don't usually hang out with each other, be careful that you don't burn them out. This could easily cross into "bridezilla" territory.

Ehh. I dont see it necessary unless your girls are HUGELY involved. Honestly id say maybe a private facebook group on facebook and post updates on there for then

If all your bridesmaids are local, no travel, and no one has to bend a work schedule for time off or use babysitters at $15 an hour, and it is very casual, lots of bridal parties would be fine with it. But just as many think planning is your thing, not theirs, and you should do it with FI. The only planning they do is when any who have volunteered to do showers or bach. parties meet with co-hostess, without you. And you may get a very bad reaction from most if you EXPECT .attendance. Or make it seem a duty or obligation. Reality TV has fostered this bizarre notion that your wedding party becomes a team, starting when you select them, and running to wedding day. Jobs divided up, deadlines to be met, bride micromanaging them with MOH as deputy. But that is not traditional, you won't find it is any book, movie, or etiquette book that predates reality TV shows. And most people do not expect that when they agree to be in weddings. Some wedding parties are already a small group of friends who hang out together as a group, or former roommates or neighbors, who like this. . . . But more often, bridal parties are 1 or 2 family, maybe a lifelong childhood to now friend, maybe someone from school, so.eone from work, or an activity group. My WP was a great aunt ( my Godmother), a childhood friend, an army buddy whom I also went to grad school with, and my college roommate for 2 years, then apt mate. Nothing in common. Not putting on a play, or anything requiring they work together. Even if they had lived close by, they would have found get together irritating. When I asked my Maid OH the first thing she said after yes, was "At least I can count on you to not have monthly " it's all about me " parties. My oldest BM, almost 30, said, just tell me I don't have to have Manis and pedis and outings to get to know all the other strays you chose. . . . You plan for a year. Or 5 months ( me). But most people who are not into Reality TV and social media weddings, think they commit to a few parties for 3 hours or an evening, maybe volunteering to host a shower if they want to, buying their own dress to your specs, maybe rehearsing and maybe an RD. And being ready for the ceremony and reception. Adding on 4-5 meetings in a year doulbles their commitment. People without much going on , may like that. Others, not so much. I have said NO to being MOH or Bridesmaid , when I worked evenings, and weekends, nurse, putting myself through daytime grad school. Available for the wedding, yes for doing a shower, yes ( I did ones for 3 after refusing MOH it BM.). But they gave me or emailed me schedules of either group Skype or meetings every 2 months, and a list of cookout, or spa, or group shopping,. Letting me know so I could take off 4-9 shifts off work. And two years ago, someone I have known and seen for years, wanted 5 Saturday work on DIY days from 5 of us. I asked if she had forgotten by 5 kids, then twins 2 and 5 ,7 , 11. We go out or have friends over evenings, several days a month. But 1/4 of all Saturdays in 6 months for her wedding ( 5 prep and wedding day) ?? Plus planning and doing her shower? . . . . What you are proposing may go over well, or very badly. Know your crowd. People who don't hang out as a group long term, likely do not want to start doing it. You are close to everyone. They may not want to become friends, with rest of BP. Or to work for you.

We don't have meetings but we do have a group chat where we text information back and forth. Right now we are discussing Air BNB plans and when to get our bridesmaid dresses ordered and what colors. It's pretty casual but we are 9 months out now so not much to discuss right now.

I agree about this being a know your own crowd thing. I don't think it's weird, but depending on how your bridal party feels, could be a bit excessive.

Lol if you all live in driving distance, why not?! I live in Texas and all of my girls are in NC where I’m originally from. If i could i would, sounds fun! Lol

Honestly if we all weren't hella busy with our crazy jobs I would do this! Lol. Instead they get my lengthy texts 😂😂.

Seems like a lot to have meetings like that. I have a private group on facebook for just me and the girls. This allows me to only post when absolutely necessary with updates so as to not overwhelm with get-togethers or group texts. And I have maids who don't live nearby and just need info for the big day. For example, I was able to send the link for the color and site of the bridesmaid dresses, my MOH posted asking the girls about the food they would be willing to make for the bridal shower and I posted about hair and makeup. I'm also trying to be really intentional about asking them about their lives and not always making it about the wedding. So far it has been working great and if anyone forgets stuff, it's all in the group! Good luck!

I don’t think it’s weird at all if the bridal party is involved and don’t have to travel far to get together. As a bridesmaid, I’d be okay with it especially if there’s food and drinks 😄