Weekend Itinerary EtiquetteHhelp

And why all of a sudden does it say I'm a private user? What mystery box did I check on my profile?

ETA fixed the private user thing and realized I screwed up the title of the post. I suck today.

I'm bumping this because it had the rings and my profile was private and everybody probably just scrolled on past haha.

Honestly Matt that's kind of what I'm thinking. So even though I already know that we are all getting together for dinner anyway I'm not sure about putting it on the schedule. Mom thinks I should just so everyone knows what's up but again I'm not sure.

A side note all but maybe 5 of my guests are family so we all talk daily about this wedding anyway .

Excellent question! I copied and pasting from Emily Post ...

How do I invite people to a restaurant, but make it clear that they will each pay their own way?

It’s all in the phrasing. You need to make it clear that you are the coordinator, not the host. Don’t send invitations; rather call and say, “John, would you and Ellen like to meet us at Chez Pierre on Saturday night? We are asking Michelle and Eric, too. We though it would be fun for the six of us to have a night out together. Just let me know if you can come and I’ll make the reservation.” By posing your request this way, it’s clear that you are just the social coordinator and not the host, so everyone should understand that they are paying for their own meal.

However, if you had said, “We’re hosting a dinner at Chez Pierre,” or sent a written invitation with that wording, then your guests would be right to assume that dinner is on you. Once you issue an invitation, you are the host, which means you are paying, even at a restaurant. There is no good way to send an invitation with a note that guests need to be prepared to foot their own bill.

How many guests do you have? If it's 50 or less, I feel like you could communicate the "pre-dinner" verbally by just saying that you will be hanging out at xyz restaurant if anyone wants to meet up. My cousin did something similar for her wedding. It was at a hotel with a restaurant and she just spread the word that she and her now-husband would be there hanging out. Everyone had their own tab but got to spend time with them before the wedding the next day. I agree with @Matt that it shouldn't go on a printed itinerary since you're not hosting. Anything casual like that is best delivered verbally.

Thanks Kathleen!

What if I just put up a little "blog" post about how we are thinking it would be fun to all get together before the wedding on our wedding website? The few non-family that will be attending are social media addicts and that's where they'll go for information anyway.

Yeah right now we are looking at about 40 guests max.