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Erin
VIP September 2023

Weekday Wedding?

Erin, on July 17, 2019 at 1:49 PM Posted in Planning 0 14
My fiancé and i are n a pretty tight budget, and I started thinking about the possibility of doing a weekday wedding instead of a weekend date. If I did a weekday it would have to be during the summer because several of my family members are teachers.

However, almost all of our guests will have to travel to our wedding as I moved to a Colorado but all of my family and friends live back on the east coast. Is it rude to have a weekday wedding? I don’t know if my family members will think I did it to discourage them from attending or something. But I can get a park venue for $50/hr on a weekday xD so the temptation is there.

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Latest activity by Kay, on September 9, 2019 at 12:04 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    Do what works best for you and FH's budget! If family really wants to come, they'll make it happen. I say go ahead and book that park if you love it!

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I’d start by asking your VIP guests how a weekday wedding would work for them. In my case, my brother lives out of town and has very limited vacation time. So I know for him it would be a major inconvenience if he even could make it, and I absolutely wouldn’t want to get married with out him there . So, you have to be aware of your particular guests.
    Personally, I would only travel for a weekday wedding for immediate family or very best friend. It’s a very minimum of 2 days off work so a big ask (and not always an option for everyone).
    For the most part, I would ONLY attend a weekday wedding if it is local.
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    I agree with this. It will be really inconvenient for some people. They have to travel far AND take off work. I would give your guests a heads up that this is what you might do and ask their thoughts. What about a Sunday or Friday wedding? That would make it a little easier for guests but you should still get a decent discount.

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  • Dayna
    Expert September 2021
    Dayna ·
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    I agree with Mcskipper above. Ask the most important people first, the ones you plan on having in your bridal party and closest family/friends. If they are comfortable with a weekday, then I don't see why not! But if a weekday will exclude important people from celebrating with you, I just don't think its worth it. I was set on a Saturday for convenience, but realized I could save a lot by doing a Friday. None of my bridesmaids are local, but after talking to them, they assured me they were ok with taking off Thursday to travel and Friday for the wedding Smiley smile

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Ask your VIPs and also ask yourself if you would be okay if people declined because they couldn’t take that many days off work. I hate when people on here say that if people really want to be there they will because I don’t think that’s true.
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  • Kaitlyn
    Devoted May 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    We're doing a Thursday wedding with a non-negotiable date (it's a sentimental thing), and I fully understand that out-of-towners might not be able to come. Luckily, we have lots of people local or at the very least within the state.

    You just have to look at who you want to invite and if it would be a hassle for the people who don't live near, then determine if you could stand having the wedding without them there. Saturday in summer is a popular day for weddings, so Friday could work as a weekday alternative!

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  • L
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    Totally fine to do a weekday wedding. I would absolutely expect lower attendance, especially if everyone has to travel. however, if your VIP's can make it and you're ok with lower overall attendance then it sound like a great choice!

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  • Erin
    VIP September 2023
    Erin ·
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    I’m not gonna lie, part of the draw is that I would be happy if some of my family couldn’t come. I still have to invite them, as it would start WW3 if I didn’t. I’m thinking summer because the cousins I do want there are teachers so it would be easier for them.

    I’m looking at a Monday morning date, people could travel over the weekend, and head back Monday night if they needed to to be at work on Tuesday. The venue I’m looking at is the same price for Friday Saturday and Sunday, but half that price on Monday-Thursday.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted November 2021
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    Weekday weddings are tough BUT like others have mentioned I would make it work for someone who was in my immediate family or who was a close friend. I feel like weekday weddings are becoming more common. Also as long as you check with you VIP's and they will make it then I would go ahead and do it. I would prefer a Monday or a Thursday as a guest so I could just give myself a long weekend.

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  • Virginia
    Super June 2021
    Virginia ·
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    We are getting married on a Thurs night. The next day is Good Friday and most of our guests are off from work anyway that day.


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  • A
    Beginner July 2020
    Amy ·
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    Thank you for asking this! I was going to post the same thing to see what everyone had to say.

    I really want to have ours on a Wed. night (our 13th anniversary). Everyone will have Friday off for the 4th of July but at least half of our guests are coming from out of state and would probably have to travel Tues. night or take 3 days off work. That's a big ask but the date is SO important to us and we've waited so long. We're inviting less than 50 people so since it's such close friends and family I think they will do it for us. But we're talking to everyone now, almost a year ahead of time.

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  • Kay
    Beginner December 2020
    Kay ·
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    We have the same wedding date! I chose that day for the same reason. It’s a three day weekend for a lot of people
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  • Virginia
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    Virginia ·
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    You're the first person I have seen with our wedding date!

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  • Kay
    Beginner December 2020
    Kay ·
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    Wedding twins!!!
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