Wednesday Wedding?

We are getting married on a Wednesday, because it is the day that worked out best for our wedding week down on the Outer Banks. We are renting from Sunday to Sunday. Obviously Wednesday is not a problem for the people who are able to come for the whole week - they are there anyway. We did invite a few people who were not able to commit for the week, hoping they could take the two days off to attend just the wedding. None of them are able to come. I do think that the middle of the week is inconvenient for most people.

I would still try to attend if I was local but the open bar might go to waste...I would do like a Signature drink or something since mist people probably won't drink because its a work night.

Have your wedding whenever works for you, but expect some (to a lot) to not make it.

If you're trying to save money you could look into the american legion, VFW, elks, knights of Columbus, etc.

Your getting married in 2017?

I wouldn't attend a Wednesday wedding.

I would attend if you were one of my top 10 favorite people. If not, I might just go to the reception and stay an hour. Taking off work is really difficult for me.

If I was in town I'd go, probably wouldn't drink much but I don't drink much to begin with. My work is really flexible though and I pretty much make my own schedule. I also wouldn't stay past 11 probably (I'm usually a night person too). If I was out of town then I'd either make a week vacation out of it if it was in the summer or Christmas time, but otherwise I probably wouldn't travel for a Wednesday wedding.

If it was the wedding of a very close friend or family member I would go to a Wednesday wedding but I definitely wouldn't be drinking.

Thanks Donna and Ashley... I really like the signature drinks idea. That gave me a few ideas .... At least 3/4 of the people already live 10-20 minutes away from the venue, and those who are about an hour to two hours away can have the option of renting a cabin up here for the night, so they won't have to worry about driving at all, and can get ready for work the next day if needed as well (depending on the time of course). The date isn't set in stone, if we can make it sooner, we will, but my fiancé's brother is getting married this year, along with his future wife's brother which will be either this year as well or the next, so that's one of the reasons why we set the date kind of far for right now. That and financial reasons on top of having a steady amount of time to plan, especially since I've gotten a lot of people saying that even a year to 18 months of planning is extremely stressful, and I want to avoid that, if that makes sense. Oh! And I'm really stuck on having a November wedding too... If possible, within the next 3-6 months, we might change it to 2016...But thank you Future Mrs. Wilson, I really appreciate your honesty. And EricaTx, Happy in Hawaii, and Emily, your advice helped a lot too. It's giving me a few things to consider.

Ditto to Erica. Unless you were up there in my list, I wouldn't take off or leave early. I would meet up with you AFTER work if I was close enough and just have a drink or two. Otherwise, I'd send a congratulatory card.

Try for early afternoon on a Sunday Those work better and usually have the same prices as during the week.

I never heard of someone getting married midweek. People would probably not stay out late since they have work the next day. Getitng married on a Wednesday would help if you're trying to have a small guest list since probably only people who feel fairly close with you would attend...

I think even if you had it on a Friday it would be better since most people don't work on Saturday's... Good luck!

If the wedding is at 4 or 5, all of your guests would have to at LEAST take the afternoon off work. People usually get off work at 5, then still have to go home, change, and drive to your venue. Many people are not willing to take time off work, so expect at least 50% declines. And the people that do come will leave early (9-10pm, depending on how far your venue is) because they work the next day.

It just doesn't sound like it will be a ton of fun...I would try to do a Fri or Sun.

With a Wednesday wedding you should expect;

A smaller bill

Fewer people attending

Less drinking

More complaints

But at the end of the day, the people that you REALLY need to be there, will be the ones that will go out of their way to attend.

We do lots of midweek weddings, but they are almost all very, very small. They aren't big dj/band/dancing party events. Lovely, but not like that.

Three years is a long time to plan something.

Friday is the only weekday wedding I personally would attend. I think if you were having 20 guests it would be fine, however even with your lower amount of guest, I think its inconsiderate. At least shoot for a Friday.

Please consider having a weekend wedding.

I would go on Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. Wednesday is out of the question. Sorry, but it just seems impractical.

Thanks so much everyone. With all things considered, I have decided to change to a Friday... and I discussed it with everyone close to me, and we decided for 2016 instead... No sooner though, it would be too difficult at this point. THANKS SO MUCH EVERYONE!!!! I really appreciate the advice .