Weddings and Pregnancy

Umm def. wouldn't expect that. I would never expect my family/friends to put their lives on hold. That's being a bit much.

I do not think it is reasonable for anyone to expect others to plan their life events around someone else's wedding. No one should be able to dictate when others are "allowed" to have a child, or get engaged, or any other major life event. Just as the person having the child shouldn't expect someone to hold off on planning their wedding until after the child is born, the couple getting married shouldn't expect anyone to plan starting their family around someone else's wedding.

No, that is absolutely ridiculous and ridiculous of any couple getting married to expect. People's lives do not stop because of a wedding. And being pregnant in no way interferes with the wedding. My MOH was 6 months pregnant at my wedding. The only change was that she didn't drink. This in no way impacted my ability to get married.

I don't have or want children, but even I know that no one should plan their pregnancies around other people's life events (and in many cases can't plan them that specifically, even if they wanted to).

Anyone who complains about the timing of a pregnancy interfering with their own event is telling everyone exactly how self-centered they are. The only proper response is to roll one's eyes and ignore them.

No, I'm currently pregnant and if someone had a problem with it that's on them. It's ridiculous to expect anyone to plan their lives around a wedding especially since right now so many weddings e being postponed. Two of our friends had to postpone their weddings from this year until next year and I'm not sure how if I will be attending either because I will have baby whose only a few months old and I don't like the idea of the baby being at a wedding with an open bar and loud music.

I feel like this exact question was asked a few days ago...

I have a different opinion on this than most people. I would never ask someone to delay getting pregnant because of my wedding. But I do think if I was going to try to get pregnant, and someone close to me was getting married, I would at least offer to try to time it so the birth didn't interfere with the wedding. If you *know* your sister or BFF is getting married in a certain month, and you get pregnant 8 or 9 months before, I do feel like that's kinda...what were you thinking. I know that's an unpopular opinion, it's just what I think.

I wouldn’t but there are crazy people on here I’ve seen get mad about that.

Absolutely not! Pregnancy is completely up to you and your spouse and when it is right for you. Someone's wedding would be the absolute least of my concerns when family planning! Your SIL sounds very selfish!

I don't understand why this keeps coming up. Literally every guest is susceptible to having a medical or other emergency leading up to an event. A woman's pregnancy effects no one but herself.

To follow on Tiger Bride's post..

In general, my answer is no, of course you shouldn't worry about planning a pregnancy around someone else's wedding.

However, I admit - I am getting married in November and we had hoped to start trying ASAP - aka on the honeymoon. Then, I did the math and if we were to get pregnant, that would put my due date 3 days after my sister's wedding next year. So I am going to wait one extra month before we officially start trying just in case. I am the MOH for my sister and I would not want to end up missing it completely because I might go into labor early. But this is for my only sister...

Psh if she said that to me i'd probably be like i'm so sorry but my life doesn't revolve around you.

no. if you get pregnant then praise the lord hallelujah, congratulations! too bad for her. I think almost every wedding i've been to has at least 1 pregnant lady at the wedding or in the bridal party lol. Babies are not always PLANNED and even if they are, who are you to dictate when someone should or shouldn't have their children? you don't know the stresses they've gone through to have one. To me that's plain rude and selfish (and it's not the first time i heard it lol).

That's crazy! It's reasonable to be slightly to moderately annoyed if an immediate family member or bridal party member, who knew about your wedding at the time, plans to give birth within 1-1.5 months of your wedding, but it's not okay to ask them to plan their family around your wedding.
There is no risk that the cousin will go into labor at the wedding, because her baby will already be out by then. Even if you got pregnant today, you'd be at most 6 months pregnant during her wedding, so you would not be expecting to go into labor at her wedding. You would also have announced your pregnancy far enough in advance of her wedding that she wouldn't [or shouldn't] feel like your news is overshadowing hers. Do what you want to do.

Anyone who expects someone else to plan their pregnancy around a wedding is narcissistic and unreasonable, IMO.

Lessee, I've had friends with fertility issues, friends who have miscarried (myself included), friends who had preemies, friends who have had stillbirths...

In no way, shape, form, or moral code is this remotely acceptable.

It says VOLUMES about this person, and... none of 'em are good.

My potential sister-in-law is pregnant and will be due two months after my wedding i.e. very pregnant in my photos, not really going to want to walk around much etc, and I'm nothing but happy for her and my brother since they're happy. I don't understand why people don't get that just because your wedding is important to you, it's not the highlight of everyone else's life and you can't tell them to put their life on hold because you're getting married. If you do conceive and she gets mad, either tell her you have your own life, or it was an accident, depending on how feisty you want to be lol.