Wedding/baby shower hybrid??

I think this is one of those times that you should definitely have two different events, and to try to combine them will actually be worse than having them separate. Have the wedding when you and your FH want to and feel ready, and if somebody throws you a baby shower, that can be a separate event not related to the wedding at all.

I have never seen this or heard of it being done.

Also a baby shower, like a bridal shower, is a hosted event. You don't plan those parties in your own honor.

FH and I are expecting our little lady in just a few weeks. We are still doing our wedding on schedule for October. If you haven't already booked your venue then I would just wait a couple of months after your baby is here. November seems kinda close. I would recommend closer to four months after so at least then you can have your newborn's first round of vaccines done since baby will be around so many people. That will also give you and your family plenty of time to both enjoy the new baby and then be able to fully celebrate your wedding as well.

Yeah, not for you to plan. It sounds a little gift grabby. Like are you expecting them to get two gifts?

I don't think this is your decision to make. Bridal and baby showers are events that are listed by other people because they are events in your honor where guests are expected to bring gifts. I think the only thing you can do is wait and see if anyone offers to throw you a shower and have the kind of shower they are offering to throw you. If someone offers to throw you a combo bridal/baby shower, then I think it's fine to have them combined. If someone offers explicitly a baby shower (or bridal shower), I think it would be polite to accept their generous offer and inappropriate to tell them you want them to make it a baby and bridal shower all in one.

TBH if I was you I would just have a small wedding before you start showing a bunch and have separate showers, that would be a confusing combined shower. Plus you don't get to pick, it's just whoever wants to host what showers.

I would say just do one shower and pick the one you want if someone is offering to host. Personally, I think that if someone is offering to throw you a shower, I would pick the baby shower over the bridal one.

Um, has someone already offered to throw you the showers? You don't plan your own, people offer and throw them for you. This really isn't your decision to make, it is for a person to want to throw you a shower.

Also, the events are months apart. I wouldn't throw them together. I would have the baby shower in July and the bridal shower in October. People do not need to travel to both as they are not obligated to attend. Myself, being out of town, I would send a gift and not attend either. I would only attend the wedding.

If you want to combine them and you'd be inviting the same people - go for it! It's your wedding and your baby. MOST people are included in the planning of their showers in some capacity so it's totally normal to have questions like this. You do you. Less travel for everyone, and these are the people that love you - I personally would prefer a joint shower. Good luck!

I wouldn't combine them. They could have different guest lists also.

Let someone throw you both showers if they offer. Obviously you don't get to throw these events.

My oldest daughter was expecting when she got married. She only wanted a baby shower as her focus was all on the baby. She also had a tiny wedding (11 people) so it wouldn't have been proper to have a big bridal shower. We waited until after the wedding to throw the shower. I think it's best to keep the two events separate.

It sounds odd to me but you would be limited to just those invited to the wedding. Otherwise it would be even more awkward for someone to attend the shower, bring a gift then not be invited to the wedding.

I had 40 people at my baby shower. I’m not having that many at my wedding. My best friends planned and executed my shower when my son was 6 weeks old ( we have baby showers in our circle after the babies are born). It was 2 hours long and I was exhausted. I couldn’t wait to go home. I had an infant, was sleep deprived, and wanted nothing more than to curl up and go to sleep after 2 hours of mingling with people. Do you want to add the stress of a wedding on top of having a newborn for a shower/meet and greet?

@Sarah ....what? Do you have any children? Because I would have had a rough time with my child when she was a baby if she only had those 5 things.

@swfan-that’s pretty much all my kid had for the first 6 months. Ffs, you can keep a 2 month old amused with a bloody hand mirror. I had a wrap carrier too because my son didn’t want to be put down.

1st, Congrats! While this would save you money it will cost your guest money. Most people prefer events spread out as it is easier to budget $200 vs. $400 in any given months (numbers totally hypothetical). I don't recommend doing this.

My youngest, the wedding I am planning now, had picked the date and discovered that she is pregnant. The baby is due in April, wedding in November. We will have separate events as they are separate things. Don't worry about the parties because as other stated it's not your place to throw the party. Enjoy each situation separately.

"We're first time parents and need all of the baby goods as well" sounds so tacky and gift grabby to me. You need baby goods? Buy them yourself don't count on them coming from a shower. If you can't afford them ask for help, don't throw yourselves a party and hope for gifts.

Weird idea. I agree with Sarah H. Buy the baby goods yourself. Have a wedding shower and whoever wants to host your baby shower can do so as your due date is closer.

Looking for suggestions to best handle our dilemma. We have a young couple that are having a baby and the guy is now in boot camp for Navy. Once out, he will be transferred for weeks of schooling. They want to be married prior to baby being born. Have to squeeze in on his only available weekend home. They were going to just go to courthouse but family and couple want it more special. Want to combine the wedding with a baby shower type. Traditionally they are kept separate for many reasons but in this case, the same family n friends will be invited and the family support for both is all covered. Sounds crazy but can happen!