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janessa, on January 20, 2020 at 1:33 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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Good morning everyone ! I need a little help or some feed back. So my fiancé's family keeps on giving me ideas on what I should do or have for my wedding and kind of a little controlling over some stuff or they don't want me to have certain stuff because of the expenses which is understandable. My family is a major help and also helping me with little things in my wedding as a contribute but my fiancé family they kind of aren't and If they do contribute they want it to be their own certain stuff and ideas.

ex: I'm not sure if anyone has hear of the magic mirror photobooth but its really fun and a new and something different than just a regular photobooth. It is a little pricy depending which package you go with. Originally I was going to get it and book it but some of my fiancé family decided that they will pay for it and now they want to change the photobooth to a lot cheaper one and its someone that they know. I do understand that everyone wants to save a little. But its also my wedding right? I should get what I want ? well that is what I think. Its so hard trying to please my fiancé family and having my wedding the way they want it. I'm not sure on how to tell them in a nice respectful way to back off a little bit or just to understand that its my wedding and my fiancé totally agrees with me and where I am coming from because he sees the stress in my every time his family tries to change stuff... I even had to change my wedding colors

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Latest activity by Dayna, on January 20, 2020 at 1:55 PM

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Kristen · on January 20, 2020 at 1:44 PM
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I am sorry for the bother as some families get excited for these events. I would speak to your FH as it is both your day and maybe he wants his family to help too or maybe he does not see it as an issue. I would suggest speaking to him about how you feel and that there are some things you want to have even if you pay for it. I would still include them but nicely let them know that you want to put forth your wedding vision to make the day special for you both but he should probably be the one to tell them to let you both decide what you want to do.
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MrsD · on January 20, 2020 at 1:52 PM
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I'd move forward planning your wedding how you want it, with a budget of what you can afford and what your parent's are contributing. If your fiance's family is only going to offer their money if you plan it their way, tell them you aren't interested.
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Dayna · on January 20, 2020 at 1:55 PM
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I think if you are willing and able to pay for things yourself, then it should be your choice what you have. It's nice of his family to offer to pay for something like the photo booth, but if it's not what you want, you can politely decline and pay for it yourself. If you NEED someone to cover a cost for you, or someone is paying for a major portion of your wedding, then they get a little more say in it. If they still want to be involved, maybe you can find something else for them to cover that is in the price range they are looking for. You and your FH can approach them together and say something like "We really appreciate that you want to support our big day, but it's really important to us that we have this particular photo booth and we are happy to pay the full price for it. If you still want to contribute to our wedding, we thought you might like helping with XYZ instead." Find something you are more flexible on, maybe the DJ or wedding cake.
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