Wedding woes

I’d say don’t let jealousy get the best of you. Gifts should be given when the guests want to and shouldn’t be pressured into it. Best gift is them being present at the wedding. People still pay good money/time to attend wedding. Like getting clothing, travel, hotels, taking time off. Non of my family has had a bridal/bachelorette, but I’ve heard you can also just do a get together as well. Doesn’t have to be a big party. Registry's are meant to help the couple be able to move in and have items for their home. It’s okay if you don’t want one but it has helped my sister in law with her home.


Definitely talk to your mom about her needing to book a flight or at least have her pay and just book a hotel near the wedding location. Just remember soon all this wedding pressure and stress will go away. I know theirs a lot of pressure on the bride to make everything perfect and plan out for every situation. Just take some time if you need to. To look away from planning the wedding for a bit. I wish you the best of luck and a happy future wedding/marriage.😊

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and I understand the feeling of wishing you had more support or the ability to have all these festivities that so many brides seem to have. I'm lucky in that my FH and I aren't quite in a difficult financial position, but for other reasons we also haven't had an engagement party (got engaged peak-COVID), likely won't have a bachelorette party (my friends are scattered across the state/country, no one seems to be able to or interested in planning one for me, and people just seem generally busy with life), and likely won't have a bridal shower (my mom has no idea what a bridal shower is, my FMIL and FSILs are consumed by their own lives, and my best friend is busy all summer studying for a board exam). I empathize with you on wishing that you could feel...more special the way society makes us think every bride does. What I've been trying to do is just focus on the things that I can control and make me happy, such as getting to marry my best friend, planning the wedding day details, and planning our honeymoon.

I also understand the frustration of someone expecting you to plan their trip for your wedding because I have a close friend who is doing the same with me right now. All I want to do is throw my hands in the air and exclaim that I have a million other things that I'm planning lol. I would recommend gently letting your mom know that you're already consumed or overwhelmed with all the wedding planning and that it would help you loads if she could take the majority of planning her trip while you can offer suggestions here or there.

No I know that it's your mom and shevshpuldctjst you paying and planning your wedding destination si she could help pay for her flight and other family members can pay for her hotel accommodations but doesn't the hotel block off some rooms so it should be alittle cheaper by doing it that way. I truly hope that everything works out for you.