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Just Said Yes June 2021

Wedding with on site lodging for some guests

Bri, on June 7, 2020 at 8:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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My wedding is at an inn that has 11 rooms and sleeps 30 people. We have the whole inn booked for the weekend. We are not having a bridal party, but are inviting our parents, siblings, close family members and friends to stay on site for the weekend. The weekend will include a welcome dinner, brunch the day of the wedding, and a send off breakfast the next morning. With our wedding invites, we are sending out info with where to stay for the guests not staying on site. How should we inform the people we are inviting to come for the weekend and stay on site? I think it would be confusing for them if they invite comes with the general info for where to stay off site. I was thinking of sending a separate invite, but think this would be difficult to time to ensure they didnt book a hotel offsite. Help!

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Latest activity by Sherry, on June 9, 2020 at 9:10 AM

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Veronica · on June 7, 2020 at 9:07 PM
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I think it could end up being very confusing. Personally, I wouldn't tell my guests were to stay because they might want to stay somewhere else that is cheaper. We got married at a hotel, but not all of our guests stayed there. Some stayed that other hotels, airbnbs, or went home. I think you could give recommendations, but I wouldn't say you must stay at X place.
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Kelsi · on June 7, 2020 at 9:14 PM
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So invitations should never include lodging information. Your invite has the wedding details. Separate inserts typically go in with hotel stay information, etc. You could create a separate invite card that mentions how a select number of guests are invited to the rehearsal, send off, etc. and include it in the envelope with the wedding invite, just as you would with the lodging info for the guests not invited to the extra stuff. Hope that helps!
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Just Said Yes June 2021
Bri · on June 7, 2020 at 9:17 PM
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Thanks! That's what I meant, that the lodging info would be included with the inserts along with the invite, not that actual invitation. I think a separate insert would help clarify!
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Kelsi · on June 7, 2020 at 9:19 PM
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Yes! We did an invitation then a card with lodging/RSVP info (we did it through our website) and for those invited to the rehearsal, their invitation envelope also included that invite!
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Just Said Yes June 2021
Bri · on June 7, 2020 at 9:19 PM
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We are designating people who we want to stay on site due to the limited number of rooms, we are asking a select few people to stay for the weekend and additional activities. I don't want to open the wedding site up to everyone invites and risk having people book the inn before the people who should be staying there, like our parents and siblings. I'm not forcing any one to stay there, just inviting them for the weekend if they want!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 7, 2020 at 9:49 PM
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I think I would just do a lodging insert of some options and let them decide for themselves which one they’d wanna be in
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Elizabeth · on June 8, 2020 at 6:57 AM
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I would put a different insert in their invitations with all that information. Then they only get one invite with all the relevant info to them and they shouldn't be confused.
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Mrs.a · on June 8, 2020 at 8:09 AM
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We’re including an insert in addition to the invitation with details on lodging, etc. you could change it up to be as specific as needed for your guests.
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Sherry · on June 9, 2020 at 9:10 AM
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We did this (AirBnb) for all of our out of town guests. We just called them and gave them the details and made sure they knew that they were welcome to stay with us the entire weekend and not to pay for lodging unless they just wanted to be alone. It was the best decision we made. We all have a blast and it was great spending the extra time with family and friends that we don't get to see often.
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