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Just Said Yes October 2020

Wedding with no kids?

Rene, on February 11, 2020 at 2:32 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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Hey WW World,

Please let me preface-we have A LOT of family and they have A LOT of kids (spefically smaller kids under 10). We would love for them all to come to our wedding but do not have the capacity. With kids, our guest list would double. How do we respectfully ask them to not bring their smaller kids?
Thanks!Rene

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Latest activity by RoseSoda, on February 11, 2020 at 3:15 PM

Master November 2020
Kristen · on February 11, 2020 at 5:54 AM
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Just stay in your invitation that it is an adult-only wedding. Don't just leave it to your wedding website as a lot of people don't read those.
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Super September 2026
Laura · on February 11, 2020 at 7:32 AM
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I welcomed kids, but planned am evenin wedding asks after party - so it's not really a kids affair.
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Devoted November 2021
Sarah · on February 11, 2020 at 7:35 AM
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You can totally do no kids. That's what we're doing, and I have a lot of kids in my extended family too. The thing is, I don't really know most of those kids, and I don't really want to pay for them or deal with the stress of having kids running around all night.
Do be prepared though, a lot of people get offended that you don't want their kids to attend. You just have to be rock solid in your decision, and maybe recruit your mom or maid of honor to help back you up.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on February 11, 2020 at 8:00 AM
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Don't invite kids. Address the invitation to whoever you want to come and specify on the RSVP card how many seats you have reserved for them.
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Devoted July 2020
Samantha · on February 11, 2020 at 8:29 AM
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We put on our invitations that it was adults only and when they RSVP online, only the names of those invited can RSVP and there's no write ins. I read sooo many things that said it's a no no but my family and friends said that it's BS and to do it anyway.
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Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 11, 2020 at 9:51 AM
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Just address the invites to the parents (Mr & Mrs, we have served 2 seats in your honor). You can put “adults-only wedding” on your website.
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Expert October 2020
Onya · on February 11, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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Definitely doing the same and it's going to say adults only (with the exception of my brother who will be 17 when we get married). Besides it's in Vegas and will be an evening wedding.
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Savvy September 2021
RoseSoda · on February 11, 2020 at 3:15 PM
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I'd been trying to figure out the best wording for this as well on my invites. A friend who knew I've been stressing over it sent me a snippet of an adult-only wedding invite he received recently:
"A gentle reminder this is an adults only wedding. We hope you will understand our decision to make the wedding children-free, and take the opportunity to let your hair down and celebrate in style!"
You could use that as is or maybe as a basis anyway. You may want to make a specific age cut-off though, so there's less confusion. Personally my SO and I decided it would be easiest to just do 21+, but I know some have made 13 the cutoff.
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