Wedding Weekend Accommodations

Additionally, there will be guys staying at the house with us but they are gay and the other two are family so I'm not really counting them in the same situation as a straight guy who we don't know that well in a house full of our bridal party.

I would make staying at the house completely optional and tell people that want to stay with their significant others that they can get their own accommodations with them.

I would let him stay. If someone is uncomfortable because there's two people sleeping in the bed next to them (in the free room that they were given) instead of one, they can find their own accommodations. I don't see why it's such a big deal.

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That's what I alluded to in the text and honestly not shocked by her trying to include her BF. It's been a bit of an issue with her from day one.

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It's not a free room. We as a bridal party are splitting the cost and each person (including myself) will be paying for their time there as well as food we use in the house.

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Honestly, that's even worse to me. She's paying for her room and you're dictating who can stay in it? I wouldn't expect my bridal party to travel to my wedding then stay separate from their S/O.

I would just let her know that you're uncomfortable with her boyfriend being there and that she will need to find her own place to stay.

View Quoted Comment I mean I get it, I wouldn’t want to stay apart from my significant other either. I’ve also been in a bridal party quite a few times where they rented a big house and significant others could stay. But that’s your call if there’s room. We rented a large house purely for everyone to get ready in and everyone made their own accommodations on where they stayed to make it easiest.

We avoided this by covering the cost of housing for our bridal party and mvps and having private rooms so each person can stay with their partner. I thought it would be rude to do it any other way.

The house isn't required to stay in and the rest of our group is single they would be the only couple so it could be awkward all around. I spoke to her and she was totally fine and understood completely, she even said her BF said the same thing I did about it being weird to stay with other people and he wanted his own place instead.

View Quoted Comment If we had a smaller party I would but we have a wedding party of 20 plus their guest's so that would be like paying for another honeymoon. Nice idea, but not feasible for us and no one minds at all, we all travel frequently.

I think it's a little silly to invite bridesmaids or groomsmen to stay in a house knowing they have significant others, and not thinking they would obviously want to stay with their SO over the bride and groom. I would just tell her the single BM don't feel comfortable in a room with a couple, so it would probably be better if she got a hotel room like the other married BM. I wouldn't want to stay in a room or house with a male I didn't know, regardless if they were gay or straight or literally anything else so I think that's a weird assumption to make that other BM will be okay with it without asking them. Just tell all the girls the house is 100% optional but if they want to stay in it, only the bridesmaids will stay in it. I'd assume every single BM with an SO will opt out of it, I know I would.

Hm the whole thing seems touchy. I 100% got what you were saying but after reading the comments I guess that's not the general consensus. I was also planning on getting an Airbnb for the bridesmaids (and bridesman) to stay in before the wedding, but I was just planning on getting it for the night before and the night of. The night before being mandatory, so I'd have everybody up and ready to get hair and make up done on time, and the night after being optional, so everyone had somewhere to go after the reception. If people want to stay with his significant others in a different hotel room, I would be fine with that except the night before the wedding. Youre mine then! Lol

While I get that if she’s paying she should be allowed to have her boyfriend with her, I can tell you I 100% would not be ok with sharing a room with them. I would feel like a creepy third wheel, and would get no sleep the night before your wedding. I am also 37 and don’t have any patience for sharing rooms with people like I did in my 20s.

Since this was not the agreement from the beginning, I don’t think it’s fair of her to ask you and the other bridesmaids staying in the house to make an exception for her. The other girls with husbands made other arrangements because of this, and she should have as well if she wanted to stay with her boyfriend. I think there would be more drama allowing this than telling her no. If you say no, you’re only making one person mad. If you say yes, the rest of your bridal party and guests at the house could be upset.