Wedding website & registry

I am in the exact same boat as you girl! lol about 2 months ago I went to a friends wedding and she didn't have a registry, instead she put it in a very nice way that "monetary donations" would be preferred and she said it will be going for their future home. (since everyone knew they already lived together and had an apartment). So it didn't come off as rude at all. I guess it's just on how you word it.

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I think it's completely fine. My FH and I haven't done a wedding website and we don't regret it at all. It's also fine to not do a registry. We did a registry b/c we wanted one. We're moving into a larger place and will have the room for extra things we could not fit in our space before. When my brother got married, he and his now wife had already been living together for 2 years and had no plans on moving. They had everything they needed so they set up a "honeymoon fund" jar at their wedding. Some guests put money in the jar, while others had checks and/or cash in cards they put in their card box.

You dont even have to ask for money, honestly asking for any kind of gift is rude.
Just don't have the registry and people will give you the cash. We had a super small registry and walked away with over $7k in cash.

I was in the same boat. I ended up making a website and registry with Zola and just added things that would be nice to have not things I needed, (new mixing bowls, towels, etc)but they also give you an option to add cash funds to the registry. So one of mine is for New Windows, another for home renovations since we bought a new house in July, one for honeymoon fund. People can contribute as much or as little as they want and for those that prefer to buy a gift the registry gives them an idea.

We have a wedding website specifically for registry info and photos. Anything beyond that we didn't feel a need for. So if you don't want one, don't make one.

We did an old fashioned registry AND a honeymoon registry, as we've lived together for years/have an apartment.

There were several things we wanted to replace/upgrade, or just ask for, since it was aspirational, but not a ton of things. The honeymoon registry was because we knew we'd be getting cash gifts, and this way people could be like, "oh, we bought you a dinner/massage/Disney tickets". it's very common nowadays, especially as many people get married after having established their own life.

We don't have them either but we're having a fairly small ceremony with less than 40 people.

Even if you ask in a "nice" way, asking for money is still a big faux pas. The website and registry are not required, so if you don't have one, people will assume you want money!