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Super October 2019

Wedding venue regret :(

Brittany, on April 5, 2019 at 6:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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Has anyone dealt with wedding venue regret? I am starting to. Things just aren’t turning out how I visioned for my big day. Ultimately FH and I really should’ve looked around more. We looked at about four, and figured we found “the one”. We were in love with it. FH would be happy no matter what honestly. There are a lot of things I’m figuring out about the venue that I should’ve asked about before....the bridal suite time, how doing our wedding indoors would work, restrictions on certain things, my dress doesnt really match well with the venue, I’ll have to put a lot more work into decor than I thought, etc. I kind of wish we could look more into different venues...however it’s just way too late. Our date is set, our save the dates with location went out, hotel rooms blocked, all of our other vendors are booked with deposits, and we have $5,000 down on our venue so far (dad is paying). There’s honestly no way to switch this. I’m a little sad but at this point I just have to work with what I’ve got. Maybe I’m just feeling overwhelm. Has anyone else felt this way? What did you end up doing?

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Latest activity by Wendy, on April 7, 2019 at 3:22 PM

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Amanda · on April 5, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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I would say to take break whether it be a day, week or month. Take a nice spa day or something to not think about it all, remind yourself that in the end, you will be marrying your love and thats the most important part. Its only a day, now of coursenit's your wedding and you want it great, I would do whatever you can to make it all work out the way you want and dont stress the little things! It's too late now to change so make it work with what you want!
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Teresa · on April 5, 2019 at 7:01 PM
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Girl you will make this work. I bet even with a few decorations you will be able to pull it off. I honestly dont think anyone will look at your dress and say it doesnt go with the venue. Dont over think it. Remember why you wanted a wedding in the first place.... to marry your man and to have a future with him. Honestly all the other details shouldn't matter so much.
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Brittany · on April 5, 2019 at 7:07 PM
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Thank you both so much, I really appreciate it. You're both right. I think I'm just overwhelmed, stressed and overthinking it
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Formerbride · on April 5, 2019 at 7:55 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I hope you can relax over the weekend! I wouldn't worry too much over decor or your dress matching with the venue. Those things probably won't cross any one's mind other than yours.
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LaLa · on April 5, 2019 at 8:08 PM
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I'm sort of feeling like that too. I think we need to remember why we loved it the first time we saw it, and why we originally picked it. Every venue has something wrong with it. There is no perfect venue! Most important thing is we are getting married, and we get to eat.
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Brittany · on April 5, 2019 at 11:35 PM
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Hey Emily!!!! Thanks so much for commenting! I thought about messaging you! I agree. I sort of felt like I was told various things (I guess to make it seem like anything was possible), and I also feel like a lot was left out. For example, the whole reception tables pushed to the side thing. I would’ve never thought that they did that! I have Olivia as my planner. I’m glad to hear that she’s been more flexible than others. So far everything has been fine, but as I’m asking more questions that I didn’t think were restricted, the more frustrated I get. I’m hoping that everything works out. I even thought about possibly getting a different venue but at this time it’s too late, I think. It would be really hard to find a venue that is still available on October 12th. Also, my dad put down $5,000 towards it already. I’m just feeling overwhelmed I guess lol. I feel like they were very misleading when I toured the venue.
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Aida · on April 5, 2019 at 11:36 PM
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I think this is common. After I placed the order for our venue and saw I had 3 days for a full refund, I started doubting the venue. And while I still feel like I made a mistake, I am still very much excited to get married at my venue. My coordinator sends out some red flags, but I am hoping they are just temporary and we will get along great in the future.
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Tara · on April 6, 2019 at 12:00 AM
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Oh no! That’s unfortunate you feel that way. However, what you’re feeling is not uncommon.
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Kim · on April 6, 2019 at 2:29 AM
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I’m still loving the venue itself, but they started building a barn (for larger weddings) right in view of where the ceremony and reception face and it’s in that stage where it just looks ugly. I’m a little disappointed by that, but on their website it says it’ll be done by spring 2019, which is now, so hopefully it’s almost done.

I’m trying not to worry about it. Maybe you could try to pull everything together with decorations? Hide or overshadow what you don’t like with things you do?
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Wendy · on April 7, 2019 at 3:22 PM
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O No!! what about dressing up the venue? awesome Pipe & drapes? lighting & effects? with a good DJ & good food! I am sure this will work!
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