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Edith
Just Said Yes October 2020

Wedding update via facebook?

Edith, on July 10, 2020 at 3:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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Hello brides,

I am planning on sending my invites later this month for my wedding in October. However, with everything that is going on it is hard to say if it will actually happen. Smiley sad

We have already down-sized the guest list to about 45. I was going to wait about a week or so after sending my invites to reach out to everybody with a message: "We sincerely hope to have our wedding as planned on October 10th with our friends and family. However, we are monitoring the news and will take precautions as necessary. We will keep you updated if anything changes". I was going to do so on a private post on Facebook with just the people I sent invites too as it is a lot easier then texting everybody one by one. Is this non-wedding etiquette or is it okay?

I wish I could of put this note in our invites but they are all sealed up already.

Would love to hear feedback!

xoxo

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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Do all of the guests check Facebook regularly? Even then, the algorithm does strange things sometimes, so it is hard to know if your guests will see it. I would just text it. You can just write the message once and then copy and paste it to each person. With 45 people, it probably shouldn't take too long to text everyone (and you can probably get away with just texting 1 member of a couple or family). Maybe email is another option (if people check their email).
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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
    Mindy ·
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    I was going to ask if you had a wedding website that you could put the updated information on for your guests that way they know they have one place to go for information regarding your event.
    I know the majority of my mom’s side, including me, don’t have Facebook anymore. But if your folks have it and check it regularly, you could make a private event and only invite the people getting invitations to it to keep the information in the hands of who you want to give it to.
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  • Leanne
    Expert September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    I would send it as a private message to everyone so that you can see if they received it and read it
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  • Leanne
    Expert September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    A group fb message is what I mean. I did the same when we postponed.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie Online ·
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    Agreed! If you have a wedding website that would be the best place to add that info!

    I worry that it could also be slightly confusing to receive invitations, then a separate "we'll keep you posted if anything changes" message - I'd try to streamline the communication wherever you can!

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  • H
    Super June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    I would email them. Even if it's a private post, some people rarely check their Facebook

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    Expert October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    Your wedding website is the best place for that. If you don’t have one, either email (with everyone BCC’d so they can’t see each other’s email addresses) or send individual messages. Facebook is unreliable and impersonal, and a group message with that many people would be annoying.
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