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Wedding Thoughts...

Elisa, on July 8, 2020 at 11:16 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

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Back in March, we moved our May wedding to November because of the whole pandemic fiasco. I live in northern NJ & work in NYC so we were in the epicenter of it all at the time. Now, cases are slowing down in our state where our wedding is being held. But a lot of other states across the country have cases surging like crazy which is scary. My fiancé and I have kind of put our life on hold to wait for this wedding. We want to buy a house and start a family, but all the investment we put into the wedding has kind of made it so that we can’t do either until after the fact. I’m getting nervous we’re going to have to postpone again, and it’s giving me anxiety bc I don’t like feeling stagnant- I want to move on with my life. Our engagement is starting to be as long as Pam and Roy’s from The Office lol. I don’t really know what I’m asking of you guys.. I guess I just wanted to vent. I’ve been pretty chill about it throughout the whole pandemic. I actually haven’t even been on this app or thought about the wedding in months. but the idea of rescheduling again kind of makes me want to say screw it and forget about the whole thing altogether and just get married on a vacant hill with some goats lol. (Except a lot of money would be lost bc we can’t get a good portion of it back.... grrrrr.) Anyone have a rescheduled spring to fall wedding this year? If so, what’s your course of action?

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Latest activity by Daniela, on July 9, 2020 at 11:26 AM

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Caitlin · on July 9, 2020 at 1:18 AM
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Can't say that I can give you advice, but I'm right there with you. I'm going through very similar things and it might comfort you to know that a lot of us are experiencing the same feelings you are. I want to have babies and what not, but can't do so until after the wedding. Don't give up, though. Continue chugging along and planning the wedding because you are too far in at this point if you can't get money back. Sit on it and think about it for a while before making any huge decisions. I'm wishing you the best of luck!!!
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Rachel · on July 9, 2020 at 7:24 AM
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Girl yes!!! We postponed from May to this October. More difficult because we have international guests. We were fighting a lot because he wanted to postpone the wedding to next year out of fear for attendance of his groomsmen and family, but I want the wedding to happen asap so we can move on with our lives!!! After much heated discussion, I finally calmed down and realized a wedding is a once in a lifetime event (mostly haha) and we want our families to all meet each other and not have to worry or be scared. However, NO ONE can predict the course of this shiz. So we will most likely say EFF IT and push the wedding into next year, but move on with our lives in the meantime. I want to go climb a mountain in my wedding dress, lol. Good luck!! So many of us are in the same boat!
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Futuremrsn · on July 9, 2020 at 8:14 AM
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Girl same! We live in NYC but are getting married in Pennsylvania. Postponed our May wedding to October, and for a while I was positive and excited for a fall wedding and now with corona apparently on the rise again I’m nervous. We spent a lot of money so far and the thought of having to postpone again and spend more money next year is too much to think about. We also were put on a hault, because we wanted to buy a home and start a family as well. We can only remain positive. If I can’t have my 120 person wedding and instead only 50 or whatever number, I’m ready to go! I hope it works out for us this fall!!
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Marcia · on July 9, 2020 at 9:21 AM
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One idea--get married and do the celebration later. Lots of my friends are doing that because, after lots of delay, they just want to be married. And most got their vendors to agree to move their deposits to next year. None of them have expressed any regrets whatsoever. Just another option!
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Daniela · on July 9, 2020 at 11:26 AM
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I feel your pain. Our wedding was supposed to be in the Mid Hudson region of NY in May and we pushed it to August. Our wedding is like 44 days away but I keep feeling anxious over the lack of guidance from the state, and fears that the virus will surge in our area again thanks to other regions that have failed to control it. We are having the party whether we can ave all 90 people or only 50. Cuomo doesn’t seem to intend to close things back down, and our venue is actually a restaurant so they are following the 50% capacity guidelines. Hang in there. This pandemic has really sucked the fun out of wedding planning
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