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Shamika
Savvy September 2020

Wedding this weekend but i dont feel like a bride or excited.

Shamika, on September 16, 2020 at 2:22 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9
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Anyone else married or getting married and not excited anymore. I don't want to go on a rant abiut everything, but I just feel like an unwanted side piece by my fiance's family. He is wonderful though and tells me that everyone likes me and is happy for us, but I would honestly never know. Outside of like 2 cousins and his sisters, no one really shows me the time of day.


Like, i feel like a burden and a wedding planner instead of the bride to my own wedding, which is 3 days away (9/19/20). Idk. Am I the only one or does this happen sometimes??

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Latest activity by Samantha, on September 16, 2020 at 4:42 PM
  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
    Alma ·
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    I’m so sorry that you feel that way! Smiley sad at the end of the day, remember you’re marrying him, not his family. What makes you feel like they don’t like you though? If it’s because they don’t ask about the wedding, that’s totally normal. No one cares as much as we do about our own wedding. Try not to think about them and keep in mind why you’re marrying the love of your life. I hope you have a beautiful wedding day!
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    Wedding planning is exhausting and sometimes takes the energy out of those planning it. Most often, no one is ever as excited for the wedding as the bride and groom. I'm sure once the day arrives, you will see that there are many people that are happy to celebrate you and your fiance! You are NOT a burden! Your wedding will be beautiful! Take some time for yourself at some point over the next couple days, and do something not wedding related to recharge. Go for a hike, do a spa day, do a movie and popcorn night with your fiance, etc. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
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  • Shamika
    Savvy September 2020
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    I don't feel like they don't like me mostly because when theres any type of family event, no one really talks to me or tries to hold conversations outside of the 2 cousins I mentioned. But they will all flock to my fiance and take him away the whole time. Also, for the thungs regarding the wedding that some of the family are helping with (its a DIY backyard wedding), they don't really come to me about the things that don't pertain to him. I'm also finding myself going back and forth with my MIL about food. She decided she wanted to handle it but wont stick to my menu or how I want things, because she is obsessedwith having a form of food bar or "make it your own" style. I have already just given up on the food part and it'll just be whatever she wants. But it could just be me thats the issue. Idk
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I don't think you should care if they like tou or not. As lomg as you know that you treat your fiance well.
    As long as they respect you, then that's all that matters. Do they say hi/greet you?
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Honestly it did not hit me til literally the day of aha so you might not feel anything til then too
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  • Shamika
    Savvy September 2020
    Shamika ·
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    Some do. Some don't really acknowledge me at all.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Okay. If you say "hi" to them first and they ignore you then I would consider that being disrespectful. If this happens, then it's your fiance's job to check them and tell them that he won't tolerate that behavior.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    My future in laws never showed an interest in my our wedding either. This contributed to our decision to elope.
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  • Samantha
    Devoted September 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Unfortunately, I think many brides tend to feel the same way. I came to the conclusion that brides go through stages of emotions for their wedding lol. I remember the week of all I could tell myself was I cant wait until this is over. I felt like he wasn't as excited as he could be, but he is just a nonchalant person. Just breathe because at the end of the day when you walk down the aisle, your eyes will be on your FH.

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