Wedding Talk with Coworkers

I say continue doing what you are doing. You're creating a problem that isn't there. It's okay to talk wedding with people that aren't invited, if they show interest and ask you questions. You said yourself that you haven't given any sort of inclination that you will be inviting them, so I don't think you have anything to worry about. IF for some reason, it comes up and one of them asks about being invited (which I don't think they will), you can politely tell them that you are so sorry and wish you could invite them, but due to budget and other factors, you aren't able to invite coworkers. Good luck, and enjoy having people interested in your wedding that want to talk and ask questions!

Oh it's totally ok to talk wedding with them and not invite them. People in general just get so excited about wedding details and hearing them, that they ask about it.

They're just excited for you. I don't think they expect to be invited I just think its a fun topic around the office. My mom's coworkers keep asking about details and they know they're not invited. They just think it's fun. If you feel you need to occasionally stress that is a small wedding. They'll understand.

On both ends, I don't see an issue. I think you're doing the right thing by not directly bringing up or openly discussing your wedding, but I see nothing wrong with sharing details if your coworkers ask (if you want to, of course). If the subject of an invitation does come up, I agree with @Danielle's advice ^, simply tell them you'd love to have them there but cannot accommodate them for x, y, z reasons.

I think you’re handling it correctly! I work with a small team as well so they often ask how planning is going. I just say it’s going well, we just got xyz done and then will shift the focus and ask what’s new with them. Three of us got engaged around the same time so there was a lot of wedding talk for a while, but one just called it off so I’ve been trying to keep it to a minimum for now.

I am actually inviting some coworkers, but majority are not invited. Just like you, we are trying to keep it small. I don't usually talk about wedding stuff unless they ask me about it. They all know that I will be getting married though.

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for all the great feedback! Super helpful. I agree, perhaps I'm being overly cautious.. I'm a bit of an anxious person so I tend to make problems that don't exist . So thank you for the reassurance! It's an exciting time but almost surprising how much attention I'm getting! For example, I called my HR office to ask a boring insurance question about updating with my new hubby once we're married and she was so happy for me and all congratulations-and this was someone I never met. I'm still getting used to it but I suppose I should just sit-back and enjoy this time before it's over! Haha

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Thanks Sara! That's tough with the coworker who's wedding was called off. :/