Wedding suite etiquette question

I don’t think there are any right words to say. You’re getting married at a hotel, guests are definitely going to stay at that hotel. I think it would be really impolite to request that one specific guest not stay there.

You can mention the other places to your dad but I wouldn't expect him to follow through. Order room service if they provide it. Ignore her the best you can.

First off, I'm happy to hear that you stuck to your guns about your wedding date. That's a decision you and your spouse make, not anyone else. That being said, it hurts my heart that your stepmom is acting this way over a date....it's kind of shocking actually. Have you asked her what her reasoning was for disliking the date? Is that date significant to her in any way, or does she simply just not like it? If you haven't, then I'd suggest asking her what her reasoning is behind disliking your wedding date.

As for the inn situation, I'd have a talk with your dad about it if it makes you that uncomfortable having them staying there. If he still wants to stay there, then there's not much you can do besides expressing your discomfort, and do your best to avoid your stepmom during your stay.

It's sad that your stepmom is behaving like a child over a date. It isn't up to her or anyone else when you get married. I am however kind of curious as to her reason why she didn't like the date you picked.


As for the question you asked, I don't really think it is reasonable for you to try to dictate where they stay especially when your venue is an inn. We got married at a hotel so of course that's where a majority of our guests stayed since they were offered a discount for staying there and it was more convenient. I think this is just something you have to deal with.

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Her son's original wedding date was going to be three and half weeks from mine and she did not like that. I didn't think it was a big deal that our weddings would be around the same time as one another. And we basically never saw eye to eye after that. She felt our weddings would be 'competing', even though our guest lists are entirely separate from one another. I talked with my dad today and he shockingly said my stepmom agreed I should have asked him ahead of time (considering the circumstances) and has canceled their reservations there. I don't think she will be difficult the day of, but it is nice to know she's not staying right there since I was/am looking forward to a romantic time with the hubs. Thanks for lending an ear Shelly

View Quoted Comment Glad to hear it worked out! Just remember to enjoy your day 😊

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That is definitely our goal, I've heard it goes by fast!

I can't believe your dad is tolerating that behavior from his wife! All you can do is make suggestions for nearby lodging.