Wedding stress adding stress to the relationship?

Yea that's normal it happens. Since it is added stress on the both of you. Take some dates where you don't wedding talk to reconnect and have a break from all the wedding stuff

Yes...and we still have 10 months. Most of the spats are about planning, which makes it harder

This mornings fight wasn’t wedding related and over something stupid but his feelings were hurt and I tried to make it right. Instead he insisted I go to work so I wouldn’t be late (I’m an independent contractor, I show up when I show up and it’s not a huge deal) and I got to the point where I just caved and went to work. I’ve been crying since I left the house, and there’s no point in trying to resolve the argument via text. So I get to work while feeling like hot garbage and not even sure if he’s going to be home when I’m off.

I literally cried and almost blew up at FH yesterday when he was questioning me about why we have to have champagne, his mother thinks it's unnecessary and people will just toast with whatever they are drinking. That's true but I love champagne and it is tradition to have a champagne toast, we are doing so many things for tradition for his side of the family and they only 2 things I requested was the guest book and champagne. It's just the stress of the event, money is tight, we are spreading ourselves pretty thin with working full time/overtime, still making time to see family and friends and planning a 300+ person wedding. We look at each other sometimes and say it will all be worth it in 2 months when we are married.

FH and I are two months out as well, and while we haven't really fought or anything, I have noticed I am much more irritable and on-edge about everything right now. I've managed the bulk of our planning process, so anything/everything wedding-related is stressing me out right now. As PPs have suggested, I would set aside some wedding-free time/dates for you and FH to re-engage and simply enjoy one another's presence

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry you are dealing with this I know you say nothing will get resolved over text but honestly I weirdly feel like my husband and I resolve conflict easier over text than in person...... it forces us to step back and communicate clearly in writing, and forces the other person to fully focus on what you’re saying. Sometimes even when we’re together, when we’re fighting we’ll go to opposite ends of the house and start texting how we feel. Something about taking a step back and writing it down is really helpful to us. Maybe not the same for you, but I really think it’s worth a try to maybe send a long text explaining how you feel?

I do think it’s normal to fight a lot before the wedding. Tension and stress levels are high so of course you lash out at each other more than you should. A lot of times when I felt myself getting annoyed at my husband leading up to our wedding I would just read over my vows lol. Every time they would remind me how much I love him and put things into perspective!

Yes, this certainly can happen and is rather common. It can be caused by the wedding itself, financial worries, and even the stress of "this is my last someone." Take the time to reconnect about things outside the wedding. Go on dates, break up the routine, just be each other without thinking about the marriage/wedding for a bit.

We had the opposite stress effect where we started becoming overly clingy and communicative.

Yes, so normal (unfortunately). Between planning, money, difficult family relationships, etc I think any couple is bound to have their stress and arguments leading up to the wedding. Take some time for you guys, go to dinner, cook, hike, whatever you both enjoy and try to lay off the wedding talk for as long as you can (which I know is not easy lol). And remember that once the wedding is over you won’t have to worry about the stress of planning! For us, when we’re getting on each others nerves about wedding stuff I try and shift the conversation towards our honeymoon and things we have coming up after the big day because I know it’ll all be worth it

Yeah, and our fights are mostly about planning/family issues.

Most we can resolve by backing away from the issue and seeing if it's connected to something bigger.

The elephant in the room is SIL, but he shuts down when I bring it up...

View Quoted Comment Girl that sucks I’m sorry.