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Ebony
Just Said Yes September 2015

Wedding Start Time?

Ebony, on May 21, 2015 at 8:41 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

I have a ceremony space from 130-3pm and on the contract it has ceremony time starting at 2pm. My fiance highly suggests that we put 130pm start time, however I think that I should put the 2pm exact start time on the invites. I told my fiance that we should cater to most of the people who will be on time, not for the few who may be late. I REALLY wanted to put 145pm but I've noticed that in wedding wording; writing out three quarters after one will be really confusing.

There are a couple factors for start time:

1. Guests will be escorted about a one minute walk upstairs and to the ceremony room, will be checked in and seated.

2. Very intimate wedding so guests will be on guest list

3. I will be arriving after people are seated by limo

4. Need time for photos after ceremony

So, should I put 130pm and put on my wedding website in my FAQ that ceremony time starts at 2pm? Or just 2pm?

12 Comments

Latest activity by Alyssa, on May 21, 2015 at 11:20 AM
  • Jamgirl
    VIP July 2015
    Jamgirl ·
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    Put the actual start time of the ceremony.

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  • Kelsey
    Expert August 2015
    Kelsey ·
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    Put 2pm, most people would arrive around 1:30ish. If you put 1:30, they might start coming around 1 and be confused and agitated they have to wait (horrible but true lol).

    Plus it is your wedding, most of your guests will want to be there on time and make the effort Smiley smile

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  • kaylarae
    Master April 2015
    kaylarae ·
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    You tell them it starts at 2 and you start it at 2. Adults should be able to arrive early and of not then the people who are late can find seats after you've done your walk. We had a start time of 1pm and right at one my girls started walking down the aisle. We had one couple show up as the girls were walking and they just waited in the foyer.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    OMG, not this again. Please look this up; it's been rehashed about a million times.

    About 90% of my couples do a half hour ahead. Adults do NOT show up on time, you'll wait for them and there goes your cocktail hour. Now, I am in NYC/NJ, and people who live here seem to think that they are exempt from being on time, but lateness happens on such a regular basis that our venues pretty much all tell couples to invite a half hour ahead. They don't make people go and sit in the sun for a half hour; they do a hospitality time and lead people to the ceremony space about 10 minutes beforehand so they can start on time.

    We have traffic issues, valet parking issues, late shuttle issues and just 'I don't have to be on time" issues with almost every wedding we do.

    Bottom line? You can put whatever time you want on the invite, but be prepared to start at that time if you don't allow a buffer time, no matter who is missing.

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  • MJBride
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    MJBride ·
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    Start it at 2. For ours, we have the ceremony site for 2 hours, 4-6. Our start time is 4:30 but our ushers and the guys will be there at 4. I hope to walk in at 4:32 lol

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  • Marisslee
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    Marisslee ·
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    If it starts at 2, put 2 on the invites.

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  • Lady O.
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    Lady O. ·
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    We put 5:00 and not a single person showed up late (I was totally expecting my family to show up late), so we got started right on time.

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  • KellySD
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    We put 6:00pm for our actual 6:00pm ceremony time. I'm nervous that people will show up late, but I've asked about this before and the advice I got is to put the actual start time. Like others have said, for the people who are punctual, they could be waiting around for up to an hour if you put the start time as half an hour early.

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  • Willie  Hooper
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    Keep it at 2. If you start at 1:30 keep in mind the guests arriving early. If you can start at 2 people can get there early. Chat and get settled in.

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  • MrMrsDavis
    Devoted May 2015
    MrMrsDavis ·
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    Our wedding is starting at 2, and I put a 1:30 start time on our invitation. I know many will arrive at 1:30 and there will be refreshments and music to keep them occupied for the half hour. However, I am Nigerian, and most of my family operates on their own time, so I provided lag time for them to get there. Plus my ceremony location is in a fairly obscure place so I thought it fair to give some lag time

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  • Lucy
    Master April 2015
    Lucy ·
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    If it starts at 2, put 2.

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  • A
    VIP July 2015
    Alyssa ·
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    Our invitation says the true start time but our wedding website suggests a half hour earlier, due to Jersey shore summer traffic.

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