Wedding speeches

Usually the maid of honor and the best man and one of the parent representatives could say something like the father of the groom or father of the bride etc. my husband and I both said quick thank your

View Quoted Comment I was going to ask my dad to say the blessing. Do I still ask him to say a speech? He is hosting/paying for the wedding

View Quoted Comment I think if he saying the blessing he could just say a short little thank you with it

One of my bridesmaids (I did not have a MOH) and one of my wife's bridesmaids (she also did not have a MOH) gave a speech, as well as my dad. Typically it would be MOH and/or best man and possibly a parent.

My husband gave a welcome speech, and then we had toasts by the moh and best man. We chose not to have our parents say anything.

Aren't toasts and speeches the same? I've only seen them at one wedding done by the honor attendants only and it was kept to 1 min per person. Anyone can give them but don't feel obligated if you or someone else can't handle public speaking.

View Quoted Comment Honestly I have no idea 😂 I’ve only been to one wedding and they didn’t have any speeches

View Quoted Comment I've been to many wedding and have only seen them at one. Just because something is in the movies doesn't mean it has to be done in real life if it doesn't fit you. Guests would probably tune out if they went too long or cringe if someone mentioned private inside/embarrassing stories.

If you do them, I'd encourage you to ask people to offer a "toast" rather than a speech, and give them a firm (and short) time limit -- probably 3 minutes MAX. As others suggested, typically it is BM and/or MOH, a parent or other host (if applicable), and a brief response from the couple. You can also break them up, so they don't all fall right in a row. At daughter's wedding FOB offered a brief welcome on behalf of all four parents right after the wedding party entrance & first dance, before dinner was served. After dinner, the MOHs and Best Men each offered a toast (there were two of each, but the 2 MOHs gave one combined toast and the BM gave another -- each was under 3 minutes, so < 6min total). Immediately after the BM spoke, daughter and SIL stood, and he spoke for the two of them, thanking everyone and he said the sweetest things about his new bride -- maybe 2 minutes max. I've both been to weddings where TOO many people rambled on for way too long and I've taught college-level public speaking for decades. Give people clear time limits & set expectations for what you want (some people might need to be told to keep in clean/appropriate/etc., and keep the total number of toasts offered small. You and your guests will be happier! (If you have others who have a burning need to give a speech/ramble, let them do it at the rehearsal dinner.) Good luck!

My dad did a welcoming toast, and then the MOH and BM did a toast. My grandma did the blessing, so we had 4 people speak.

We're only having our MOH and best man give a speech. We don't want too much time taken up with this.