Wedding Song

Hi girls.


My fiancé & I are getting married next year after 2 years together. This is my first wedding and his second. They had no children and divorced after 2 years when he discovered she was cheating. That was 10 years ago.
We’ve never really discussed his first marriage at length before. He doesn’t have any contact or ties to ex wife so it was never relevant. We’ve arranged our own wedding together and with all of the big details finalized, we began discussing little things such as the wedding song.
I’ve loved a particular song for as long as I can remember and secretly always wanted it as my wedding song. I was thrilled when I noticed it in his playlist when we first stated dating and knowing how much I love it, he always smiles and gives me a kiss when we’re together and it starts playing.
So during the discussion I mentioned said song. It’s beautiful, we both like it, it would be perfect. As soon as I said it, he looked at me very sheepishly and said that it was his first dance song from his first wedding. He knew how much I liked it and didn’t want to ruin it for me.
When I asked about all of our other plans he said everything about our wedding is different and the song was the only thing mentioned that was included before.
I know it sounds crazy and I have no claim over anything but I feel genuinely devastated about it. Now we can’t have it and it feels like something important has been taken and part of our big day just won’t be the same without it.
I’m trying so hard not to dwell on it. I haven’t made a big deal of it to him and know there are countless other options out there. But every time we talk about anything to do with the wedding now he drops his head and says “I had the right song for the wrong girl”, which makes it really difficult for me to compartmentalize.
Has this or something similar happened to anyone else? How did you deal with it? The last thing I want is to sound like a bridezilla but I’m finding it really hard to let go.