Wedding Shower Invites vs. Wedding Invites

Well since you're hopefully not planning your own shower, you should let the host worry about when to send the shower invitations ;-)

First, you don't send out your shower invites, the hosts of the shower do. Second, the beginning of September is really early, you want to send out your invites 6-8 weeks before your wedding so no earlier than the middle of September.

Shower invitations should be sent by the host of the shower. If you include it with the wedding invitation, it implies that you are hosting your own shower, which is rude since it's a party for gifts.

As for your bridal shower, I wouldnt include anything about that inside of your wedding invitation because whoever is hosting should be sending out that information. For your wedding, you will receive different views on when to send out your invitation. I sent mine our in the beginning of May for my July wedding, which was before the typical 8 week mark and I am glad I did. I received a lot of responses quick and it also helped because some got kicked back to me. I would say your day to send your wedding invitation is fine.

My MOH has kindly offered to host a wedding shower for my FH and I. I just didn't know if it would be better to send the invites together since the dates are relatively close...I didn't really think about people thinking I was hosting my own shower lol.

If your shower is September 30th, your MOH needs to send them out the middle of August, that's way too early to send out invites for a November wedding. You want to send out your invites closer to your shower date.

Your moh should send them out and it should definitely be separate from the wedding invite

Shower invites can be mailed much closer to the date. Send separately. In fact - the shower invites should come after the wedding invitations, unless you are having an exceptionally long engagement.

The shower and wedding are two separate events hosted by different people. They should have different invitations. Not to mention the fact that there need to be two separate RSVPs to two different people. By combining the two, this could get confusing for guests and messy for you and your MOH who is hosting your shower.

Wedding invitations go out 6-8 weeks before your wedding, so yours should go out in mid-September.

Shower invites go out more like 4-6 weeks before the event, so the middle or end of August would be good.