Hi everyone! I am not a bride (yet) but I am a MOH and bridesmaid for 2 weddings within the next year. For the wedding I am MOH for, i am planning the shower with the MOB and all of the bridesmaids. We are equally sharing the responsibility of planning the shower and are all contributing what we can financially as well as providing everything necessary for the shower. This shower isnt too extravagant, a tent in her parents backyard, making food, etc. I am the only bridal party member that is not from the same city so I knew I couldnt realistically do everything myself so it was easier to share the responsibility. For the wedding I am a bridesmaid for, however, the experience is completely different. The MOH for this wedding is from out of state and only the bride really knows her. She sent a group text saying she would be doing all of the planning but if we had a suggestion to shoot it her way. That was the end of the conversation and she hasnt reached out since. I am a recent college graduate and currently myself and another bridesmaid/friend are only working part time. Being in a bridal party is certainly not cheap! My question is, am I responsible for contributing financially to a shower I have no part in planning? She has not asked any of us what we are comfortable spending and has made it clear she is the sole host. I am worried she is going to plan something that is relatively expensive and ask for money after the fact. Any advice would be appreciated if you have gotten through my long winded post!
Sincerely,
A stressed out bridesmaid!
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