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Wedding Shower / Bachelorette

VICTORIA, on August 1, 2020 at 9:00 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Hi guys!

FH and I have postponed our 10/25/20 wedding until next Summer 😭
However, we're still getting civilly married on our original day (big celebration will be next year). We will only have our parents, FHs grandparents, siblings, and my soon-to-be stepson. Side question: should we open ot to our siblings partners/husbands and kids? I don't care either way, just worried about the amount of people- we don't want it too big or anything. With partners/kids: 23 people Without: 14 people
Okay, back to original question: since we're getting married on 10/25/20 is it weird to have all the "parties" next Spring before the big celebration? Like the wedding shower and bachelorette? Idk. I want to, but I also don't want people to be like "uhm...but you're already married?"
And, no, I can't have them before October because things are still closed and lots of people couldn't come because of NYs travel restrictions (namely my mom, sisters, and aunt in GA, and another aunt in MD).

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on August 3, 2020 at 3:10 PM

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Caytlyn · on August 1, 2020 at 9:09 AM
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You should definitely invite everyone's significant other. They're a social unit and should be invited to events as such. The kids are up to you. I wouldn't want to get married without my nieces and nephews there, but some people prefer adults only events and that's okay.
As for pre-wedding events, it's really whatever you and the host(s) are comfortable with. I also think it's important to be upfront with all of your guests about the fact that you're already married. Most people won't mind, and those who do don't have to attend.
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Lisa · on August 1, 2020 at 9:11 AM
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I would recommend including siblings' significant others, though it's up to you on whether to include their kids. I also think it would be totally fine to hold the parties next year before your celebration! In the times of COVID, many "rules" are out the window. Most people are understanding of things being moved around due to COVID, so I don't think you'll get negativity from anyone.
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Lynnie · on August 3, 2020 at 3:10 PM
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I'd go for inviting all 23 if that number of people is ok!! If you want to keep it smaller than that then maybe say no kids except your soon-to-be stepson!
I also think next spring is a better plan for the other parties, and that your guests will be understanding of the "covid-modified" wedding timeline! 😉
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