Wedding shower at work

Side note... I moved to Florida about 4 years ago and only have my sister and her husband here. All my briesmaids and rest of my family are in NJ and I probably won't have a shower from them. This is more than okay with me especially since I know them traveling for the wedding will be expensive. I think my coworkers know this and this may be one of the reasons they want to throw one. One of my coworkers whose invited knows my sister and I think there has been talk about having her stop by work too.

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Office showers without inviting all your coworkers are acceptable. One of the few times doing this is.

Thank you! I just wanted to make sure how to answer them. Some people even just googled my name and found the registry that way so i've been awkward and haven't been sure how to respond lol.

The best response to an invitation request is "Oh, we are having a small, intimate wedding"

I'm in the same boat. I invited not a single person from my firm, but I have a strong feeling that Monday they will have a bridal shower for me. I think it's nice. Politely accept it and say thank you. What else can you do? As for people demanding an invite, I've never heard of such a thing! Just reiterate that it's a small wedding and you wish you could invite everyone but simply can't

At my office it's common for people to have a wedding shower and many people contribute a few bucks (anonymously) toward a gift. I've never been invited to the actual wedding of someone at work unless I was really good friends w them outside of work.

If they want throw you something I would let them, your response that "we are trying to keep it small" is perfectly acceptable and the best one you can give. We throw parties at my job all the time, just this past October we threw a work baby shower for my friend and people that she didn't invite to her "outside" baby shower wanted to pitch in. It was something THEY wanted to do even though they had not been invited to her baby shower outside of work. I would let them throw you one.

Thanks everyone! Yes this was my rule for inviting coworkers as well. I hang out with those three who have been invited often outside of work and we have gotten really close.

I think as PPs have said this is an acceptable exception to the usual shower rules. My work threw me a shower and got me a small gift from my registry even though none were invited to the wedding and it wasn’t weird at all—I was so touched by their generosity.

We throw baby/wedding showers at work for people. Just had one last month actually. The bride only invited the people from her department to the wedding. We still got her a couple gifts and had a small party for her. No one was offended for not being invited.

Office showers with people not invited to the wedding are normal at every place I have ever worked. I figured most people like 2 hours during when they would normally work to sit around chat and eat free food LOL.

In my experience, people at office showers don't generally expect to attend the wedding. It's more a gesture of camaraderie and goodwill.

My office will take any excuse for a party! They've thrown a bridal shower for me and 1 other girl in my office since I've been there. Neither of us invited office mates. No one hinted at getting an invitation, but we don't really socialize outside the workplace either. m

You stated that your company is known for this so go with it...enjoy yourself, share your registry info, and only invites those who you want.