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Cait
Just Said Yes August 2020

Wedding Shower After Wedding?

Cait, on March 26, 2020 at 10:44 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 10

Due to CoronaVirus I had to postpone my shower and we're still figuring out what to do about our April wedding. What's the etiquette on throwing a shower post wedding? I have no problem returning the gifts that have already been delivered and just cancel the shower aspect, but I know that would disappoint many in the older generations. I'm inclined to think given world events, that most people wont be put off if we do a shower after our official ceremony, but wanted to get other perspectives.

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Latest activity by Lisa, on March 27, 2020 at 9:14 AM
  • Jordan
    Devoted August 2020
    Jordan ·
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    At this point I don’t think there’s a wrong or right way! This has never happened before so honestly there’s no correct way. I mean for us we’re going our honeymoon and when wedding lol! We had to postpone our April wedding to August! I think doing it afterwards is totally okay!
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I agree with Jordan! There's no "normal" in this situation!!

    Can you do a quick poll of your close friends and family members? You could invite their opinions and make a group decision to either do a "virtual shower" before the wedding or to just have a post wedding shower!

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  • J
    Dedicated June 2021
    Jessica ·
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    Absolutely do your shower after the wedding! These are unusual circumstances. I have a little more time then you, but if we do have to postpone shower(again)/Bach party we are going to do it after the wedding. So far all family and friends had no issues. I do see anything wrong with it!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don’t think you should return the gifts anyway because you really did mean to have a shower but due to external circumstances you couldn’t so I think people still would want you to have it
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  • Shannon
    Savvy June 2020
    Shannon ·
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    I would just cancel the shower, but that's personal preference. I also don't see any reason for returning the gifts. The gifts are not being gifted to you because you're having a shower, they're being gifted because you're getting married. That's the entire purpose of the shower. Now, if yall just called off getting married all together and ended your engagement, then gifts would need to be returned, but that's not what happened. Basically any gifts that were going to be given at the shower should just be given at the wedding, that's why I personally wouldn't invest the time and money in holding a shower. BUT if YOU really want the experience of having a shower and hate to miss out on that aspect then totally go for having a shower!

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I think considering the circumstances and this situation, it's totally fine to do the shower after the wedding. I think most of the guests will be understanding about the timing.

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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    There is no wrong or right way in this pandemic. Everyone will understand. Do what suits you best
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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
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    I agree with everyone else! This is such a strange time to be around, I don’t think anyone would judge you for doing it differently
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  • Anna
    Super April 2020
    Anna ·
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    I never thought of this. I'm going to look more into this. My fh and i are still sticking with our date but only 8 guest. The church is only limiting the amount of people in the church. So this would be a perfect idea.

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  • Lisa
    Expert April 2021
    Lisa ·
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    No right or wrong answer here! I’d definitely do what you want to do because ultimately it’s up to you. Your day, your way 😊
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