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Wedding rsvp Etiquette

Faith, on February 13, 2020 at 4:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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In collecting our wedding RSVP's with the date approaching next month, we had a guest write in a plus one for themselves without us inviting them and without asking first if we were okay with it. Our numbers are so tight already and I am not the kind of person to say no. #preweddingstress

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Latest activity by Faith, on February 14, 2020 at 10:45 AM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on February 13, 2020 at 5:06 PM
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I would tell that person that at the moment you cannot accommodate their plus one BUT that perhaps they can check in later after you've gotten all your responses to see if there's any room.
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Super August 2020
Alex · on February 13, 2020 at 5:08 PM
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Are they in a serious relationship and you didn't know? If so, let them come.
If not, kindly tell them: "We are so excited for you to come to our wedding, sadly we don't have room for plus ones. We hope you can still make it, but if you can't we understand."
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Master August 2021
Jasmine · on February 13, 2020 at 5:09 PM
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If it's not in your budget, I would say this would be the best time to be the kind of person to say no. That's not fair to you that they assume they can bring someone. I would contact them and let them know that you saw that written addition and that unfortunately you can not accommodate.
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Rachael · on February 13, 2020 at 5:14 PM
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I agree with everyone else if it's not in your budget you can just politely say we don't have room for another guest right now
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Gen · on February 13, 2020 at 5:17 PM
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“My apologies for any confusion, but the invitation was for only you to attend. Unfortunately we do not have the space to accommodate any additional guests. We look forward to seeing you there!”
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Master January 2021
Andrea · on February 13, 2020 at 5:35 PM
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Yup, perfect response to this kind of situation!
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on February 13, 2020 at 5:47 PM
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If it's a random plus one and not a significant other, I'd just text them and say "Hey! We got your RSVP. I'm so sorry but we can't accommodate plus ones in our budget. We hope you can still make it though!" or something like that.
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Faith · on February 14, 2020 at 10:45 AM
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Thank you everyone for the advice!! She is not in a serious relationship so I am unsure who she thinks she's bringing. I love all the options of wording everyone give so will definitely reach out to her if we can't squeeze in the extra person! Thank you!! Wedding is 6 weeks away and I definitely do not want any more stress on my plate!
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