Hi guys! We’re recently engaged and looking to get married in 2021. I’m currently toying with the idea of getting married on our anniversary (May 5th) at city hall and having the reception a weekend or two after. Has anyone done this? Thanks!
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It’s up to you of course but if I were you I’d just choose another date. Whatever day you end up having your wedding on will be special because it’s the day you got married, regardless of any prior sentimentality about that date. I feel like it would detract from the special-ness of the ceremony if you were just doing it at a courthouse and didn’t get to celebrate with your family and friends right away, and it would detract from the special-ness of the reception because you’ve already been married for a couple weeks. Also I’m just thinking like as a wedding guest honestly my favorite part of weddings is watching the ceremony. You’re there to celebrate this couple’s love and entrance into marriage, right? I feel like it kinda cheats your guests to invite them to celebrate but not let them actually see you get married.
Again there’s nothing WRONG with doing what you’re suggesting, and it sucks to give up your anniversary but... in my opinion at least, finding a new anniversary is the better sacrifice to make of the options you have.
Daughter and SIL's anniversary of their first date fell on a Wednesday the year they got married, so they looked at the Saturday before and the Saturday after. Being in the same week was good enough for them, and having everyone they love witness their ceremony took priority over a particular date on the calendar.
We're doing the whole shebang on our 8th anniversary, which falls on a Tuesday. The party is shorter and many people won't be in attendance, but that's fine. We're capable of keeping our date with minimal sacrifices and will not be offended by anyone declining their invitation because we know a Tuesday evening doesn't work with everyone.
Alternatively, I've seen tons of couples sign the papers and get legally married a few days prior to the celebration. Nobody has ever said anything negative about it because there's almost always a reason and honestly, if it makes the couple happy, who cares? As long as you're not trying to be sneaky about it (since that can hurt people's feelings), I don't see any reason not to.