Wedding Reception Disappointment

I am trying to get over how mad and disappointed I am at the DJ company. Our wedding was 2 weeks ago and I am still so emotional about their lack of communication. Originally we weren’t going to go with a dj because it was not in our budget, but we ran into this company at a wedding show and it was majorly discounted. So we cut the cost on a few decorations and Hors d’oeuvres so we could make it work. We were excited! The owner needed to have our information paper by a certain time, but we weren’t finished planning by that time. I asked him if we can turn in our paper later when we have the rest of our plans. He said no, just turn in what we have, then send the rest in emails. I said fine, no problem. At this point, it was about a week and half before our wedding. They said that is plenty of time to download everything and go over with the dj for the night how we want things done. I was so excited and my hopes were high! I sent emails daily with new updates on our big day, they would send me an email saying they got it. I called a couple days before our wedding to make sure they understood what we wanted, they confirmed and all was good! I thought to myself, perfect!

So here is the big day, and I wake up and I had a feeling of peace. That was until the ceremony coordinator called me right as I was walking into the salon telling me things were going to be changing for the ceremony because she wasn’t feeling well. I told her no, things are staying the same as we rehearsed because that is how my now husband and I planned it. (We weren’t bridezilla and groomzilla, she was just changing our plans left and right on the day of the rehearsal and now the day of the wedding. She wanted it done a certain way, but it was our wedding, so we wanted it done our way). So long story short, I texted my now husband and let him know what was up, and then I called all of the vendors to make sure everything was still going smooth, including the DJ. This cast a shadow over my happiness. On top of this, I ended up losing a couple of pounds between my final fitting and the big day. My alterations lady wasn’t very good to begin with, so not only was my dress too long (because the alterations lady wouldn’t listen to me, and I didn’t have time to go to someone else), I now had major cleavage issues because it was too big. Gah! It all ended up working out, though. My now husband took over the ceremony and kept everything the way we wanted it, we just ran 15 minutes behind, and nobody noticed my cleavage. I guess it just looked like more because I was looking down at it.

After the ceremony, the coordinator annoyed us again. They wouldn’t let us pay until the day of, and of course that was the last thing we were thinking about (we offered several times before hand, but they insisted for us to wait). My MOH had to run to the changing room (where my handbag was) before we could get on with our reception. The coordinator grabbed a beer from the cocktail hour (that we were hosting) and said I hope you don’t mind. In fact, I did mind. Why is she drinking beer when she said she wasn’t feeling good, and the beer that was “free” cost us $3. We were done at this point. Both of us just wanted to enjoy the feeling of just getting married, but we were overwhelmed with anxiety. She left with the officiant after they were paid.

This set the stage for what happened next. It was time for our introduction and the DJ started playing a song. We didn’t know this song was for us and the wedding party. It wasn’t our song nor the song we showed the wedding party. Then the DJ starts calling out our names and we were all like WTF with confusion. We went with it, but my husband and I were majorly disappointed. We made all of these budget cuts to afford this dj company and they couldn’t even get our introduction song correct. Wow! It didn’t stop there. During dinner, the dj was supposed to play piano music, and instead it was hip hop. We had her change that immediately. we Called the reception coordinator over to our table, and my husband and I were just so confused. Why is the dj not doing what we planned. The coordinator went to go investigate. She came back with the dj’s explanation and the dj said she only has this to go off of (it was out incomplete paper we sent in, whenever we specifically told the owner it was not complete. As a reminder, the owner said to email our plans, and we did, and he also said he would communicate our plans to our dj for the night, he apparently did not). What was so disappointing is the introduction song (besides from the ceremony music) was one of the few songs on that list, and they butchered it. So, the rest of the night was me and my husband trying to find our songs with the dj on google and explaining our plans to her. She did the best she could do with what she had, but we could have done a better job for free. Every time someone would come up to us and tell us our wedding was amazing, I would cry because the dj was ruining it. Most of our wedding pictures at the reception is me glaring at the dj, and my husband talking with her. We ended up letting her go after the contract was up, and a couple of our friends took over the music. This is when my husband and I really started to have some fun and loosen up, but it was the last hour of our reception.


I feel robbed. How do I get over this? We don’t get a redo, and I almost feel wrong for being so disappointed, but I cannot help how I feel. I am hugely happy that we are married, but if we could have foreseen how disappointed we would be, we would have gone much simpler with the reception. We worked so hard, and it felt ruined.
Any suggestions?