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Wedding Rant and Advice Please

Shannie, on August 27, 2020 at 12:55 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15
So my matron of honor and the best man(they are married) backed out last night because my fiance wanted to add me into there D&D night and she felt it would take to long. He had mentioned since she won't be in every game I could play then. She didn't like that I don't know why. Well now I'm hurt and my fiance is hurt and I'm wondering what I should do. Cause I don't know if I even want them there anymore and we were supposed to go to the dells next month to get somebtime in planning the wedding. What would you do?

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Latest activity by Maggie, on August 31, 2020 at 12:05 PM
  • RaylaSan
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    I feel like that's a harsh thing to do all for Dungeons & Dragons, I think right now you, your fiancee, and your matron of honor and best man are just stressed out. Try to keep things calm, and tell me if one disagreement is worth ending a friendship. Understand that kicking someone out of your wedding, is the same as wanting to completely end the relationship. Even if they left in their own volition, I think they did it in the heat of the moment. Trust me, I understand that D&D is a great game, but it isn't worth losing your friends over, and ruining your wedding over.

    What I would do is calm myself down, and try to talk things out with them. I love playing games as much as the next guy, but I don't want to lose a friend.

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  • Amanda
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    While I agree, everyone should try to make amends, what they did was still petty. That’s your maid of honor and best man, they have important roles in your wedding and you need to be able to rely on them. Do you feel that you could rely on them down the road? Will they possibly screw you over and drop out of your wedding closer to the date? Myself personally, I would try to continue a friendship, but I would probably find someone more responsible for the role. I’m an adult and don’t have time for pettiness.
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    Savvy October 2021
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    They have blocked us on every form of social media and won't answer our calls
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  • Samantha
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    Sounds like they have done you a big favor and their true faces have been revealed. I am sorry the friendship has turned out this way and that you are feeling sad. However, removing toxic relationships from your life is always a positive. Wishing you well.
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  • Leanne
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    That’s extremely childish. I wouldn’t beat yourself up over it. I know it’s sad, but if that’s how they are over a game, you don’t need them to be active participants in your wedding.
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  • Shirley
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    Yeah this sounds awful and hurtful, but in rhe long run you may have dodged a bullet. They sound petty and unreliable
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  • Julie
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    They blocked you over an argument about D&D?? Did it get so heated that things were said? Either a big chunk of story is missing or you REALLY lucked out on finding out now. That makes zero sense.
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  • Bo Miller
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    This! Definitely sounds like either there are missing parts to this story or you just got extremely lucky in seeing who they really are as a people.

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  • Sexypoodle
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    I apologize but, I don’t understand the basis of the argument. Is it due to your MOH not playing a game? A game taking too long?? Forgive me because I know zero about the game. But, either way, it sounds like your MOH and BM made the decision for you. It sucks but sometimes friendships end. I think feeling sad is natural but still move on with the planning and maybe down the line you’ll work things out (or not).
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  • Biaani
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    So sorry! sounds like they don't deserve such big roles in your wedding. I too lost a bridesmaid but I'm glad it was now and not the day of or even after. I would've disliked my wedding pics lol. Hope you guys can work the friendship out but maybe you should rethink their titles.

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    I don't understand the details of what happened, but those definitely don't sound like friends, let alone BEST friends. I would leave it alone for a bit. Your wedding is so far away that nothing has to be decided in the context of a wedding party. But definitely do some thinking about whether or not you and your future spouse want to maintain/try to repair these friendships. If not, you four can go your separate ways and nothing more needs to be done.

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  • Molly
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    It sounds like you are both better off with out them.

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    All this over a game? There's a lot being left out, I think.

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  • S
    Savvy October 2021
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    Nope there's not she tends to do this a lot over small things.
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  • M
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    If this is "normal" behavior from her, then I think you have your answer about what you should do: don't rely on her for anything, especially related to your wedding.

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