Wedding Ptsd- is this a sign that guests enjoy themselves?

It’s been a few months since our wedding and I still have flashbacks of what went wrong. I pride myself on having things done right or organized but I’m still laidback and weddings aren’t perfect.


I look back and our guests (mainly my husband’s/ family) were too comfortable, which is weird bc we have all gone to so many weddings with them before and it was all respectful, structured, formal. Our wedding venue was way more formal compared to the others. Here’s where I get peeved (and husband too):
- we agreed with our venue that no alcohol was to be snuck in. We had an open bar with drinks for 5 hours. My husband’s cousin’s husband brought it in and OF COURSE he and a bunch of other cousins went to our bridal suite and hung out there, made it their own party. That door was only available to the bridal party and parents. My bridesmaid (new mom) couldn’t even breastfeed because his cousins were just hanging out. Also- that’s an offense with the venue bc there should’ve been a sign that says “wedding party only”
- we scheduled our couple pictures when everyone was eating cake. I had the emcee make an announcement that guests were to sit and enjoy while we took pictures. Husband and I wanted group pictures with our cousins who flew in from out of town. When that was going on, his local cousins were all, “we need a cousins picture too! Let’s go!” So they all went out to the patio and had their own little photo shoot and did their thing. Our friends also left their table & hung out in the patio. It kind of disrupted our pictures bc everyone wanted to be in on it
- unplugged ceremony (with sign and all) was still a picture taking race to see who had all the shots and post on Facebook. I asked the lady at the church to make an announcement before the ceremony and she emailed saying that she wouldn’t be effective & told me to have the priest to do it. The priest was part of our procession and there was no time or chance for him to make that announcement. Oh! And what really got me upset was that all our formal shots taken by the photographer were posted. Who posted it? Flower girl’s mom who wasn’t even supposed to be there with us. Once she posted, other relatives re-posted. That was my only bridezilla moment. Luckily, my bridesmaid took the emcee aside to make an announcement for guests to take their pictures down as it was an Unplugged ceremony and there was pictures were not even allowed during the ceremony.
My husband says that maybe it just means that our guests actually enjoyed themselves and had a fun time if they were to behave this way. Again, I’ve never seen them this way with other cousin weddings. Why ours?