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Just Said Yes November 2019

Wedding Procession

M, on July 3, 2019 at 11:59 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

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My fiancé and I are not having the traditional wedding party. But we did want to include my 4 siblings and favorite three cousins to make it even. It’s a Mexican wedding so there are roles such as godparents for rings, godparents for church, and some more roles that we can fill. My fiancé doesn’t want to include my nieces and nephews (9 total).He sAys I’m forcing it and he feels the wedding is lopsided. I can say he is not being empathetic. How can I not have my nieces and nephews? And I can’t choose, I’m not going to make one feel left out. Also this might be the only wedding they can be involved. I don’t know how to compromise with my fiancé . Help.

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Latest activity by Jessica, on July 4, 2019 at 1:08 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on July 4, 2019 at 12:06 AM
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I’m all for including those most important to you, but 9 is a lot. How do you want to include them all?
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M · on July 4, 2019 at 12:09 AM
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I forgot to mention. It’s a catholic mass, so readings, flower girls, bringing of gifts, ushers
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Jessica · on July 4, 2019 at 12:51 AM
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Am I misunderstanding, or are you including your 4 siblings and 3 cousins for a total of 7 and wanting to add 9 nieces and nephews (16 members of your family)? Who is being included from his family? I don’t feel like it has to be an even number, but if it’s overwhelmingly your family being given roles in the ceremony he has a point about it being lopsided. Ultimately it’s both of your day and you both should be comfortable with the decision,l. Weddings create lots of opportunities to compromise and work together.
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M · on July 4, 2019 at 12:55 AM
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3 of his cousins. Sorry, how do I edit my post. You are so right, we should both feel comfortable with the decisions we make !
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Jessica · on July 4, 2019 at 1:08 AM
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No editing on the app, not sure why! That makes sense. I get why you want to include them, and I get where he’s coming from. I’m under the impression FH’s family is my family and my family is his family (officially once we get married), but he definitely has a bigger family than I do and sometimes I have weird anxieties (best way I can think to describe them) about stupid things like everyone sitting on the “grooms side” even though we plan to have a sign saying pick a seat not a side. I think it’s really hard to even consider picking certain nieces and nephews, so I wouldn’t go that route because someone will definitely end up with hurt feelings. I hope you can both come up with a plan that will make your wedding day everything you imagine.
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