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Julie
Dedicated November 2020

Wedding Prayers Help

Julie, on November 18, 2020 at 3:55 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5
Hey! So my fiance and his family are fairly religious, and myself and my family are quite the opposite. Our officiant is religious as well, but wants to make sure the ceremony is the way we want it.



He says he typically starts with a prayer but can cut or adjust it as we want.
I feel bad fully cutting it because the entire rest of the wedding is non-religious and I want to honor my FH'a faith. But I also know I'll feel awkward if we go full prayer.
Does anyone have suggestions for what we could do? I was thinking maybe say a general prayer but instead of saying God the officiant can be more general and ask everyone to either pray or reflect on their own. I just can't find the right wording 😅

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Latest activity by Chelsea, on November 20, 2020 at 1:50 PM
  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We did not have a prayer during our ceremony, but did have one before dinner. That might be a nice compromise?

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  • Julie
    Dedicated November 2020
    Julie ·
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    That may be a good idea!

    I just feel bad because I know my FH would be fine cutting it if I asked him to and he doesn't feel the need to "push for a compromise". I know he would be okay with it, but I still want his faith to be honored.

    I think the dinner prayer may be a good middle ground!

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I agree with this suggestion. Sounds like a fair compromise
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    Rockstar July 2019
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    My husband doesn't believe in God, but my family is very religious. We didn't have religion as a part of our ceremony, but we did say a pray right before dinner. My brother, who was my bride's man, said a speech rather than my maid of honor then he led us directly into prayer. My family would've prayed that their tables, but my husband thought it would appear strange to have some people praying, but not others.

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    Savvy October 2020
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    My own opinion is that if religion is important to your FH, it should somehow be reflected in the ceremony, which should encapsulate the core values/motifs that will be in your marriage. I think if prayer is specifically important to him, then he should be taking point on this piece of the ceremony.

    FWIW I think your solution of having the prayer announcement be something more akin to "a moment of silent reflection to bless this union" or whatever would be perfect.

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