Wedding Postponement Grief

We have the same date July 12th. It’s beginning to become depressing however I have not rescheduled and I really do not want to. Such a bummer 😔

First of! Thank you!!! And you are not alone so many of my girlfriends that were planning on getting married earlier this year had to postpone. Love goes on and we will too in due time. Just breathe easy and think of it this way more time to plan and maybe add little personal touches that you thought ("I don't have time to add that...") Now you do.


Being essential myself and planning a wedding is stressful but it's one of the things that keeps out of going into too much of a funk. 🙂 Praying that October is your month!

I postponed from this July to next August and I can honestly say I've been through the five stages of grief, several times over. It's a difficult situation and grief is a totally natural response. You're not alone, and you'll still have a beautiful wedding.

We postponed our May 2nd 2020 wedding to August 29th 2020. I have definitely been grieving since we made the decision 7 weeks ago. It was so tough and I was emotionally up and down, but mostly down, on our original wedding date last Saturday. I spent the day thinking about what would’ve been happening throughout the entire day. But I keep reminding myself the day will still come. The grief will pass once all of our weddings actually happen.

July 25th wedding here and I feel the same! We haven’t officially postponed yet but it is looking more likely that we will have to. I’m 28 and so desperate to start a family as soon as possible. Wondering if I should just go for it now and have the wedding after baby. It’s breaking my heart to have to wait... 😢

Thank you for sharing this! It's honestly so relieving to hear that others are feeling the same way. I am also a nurse, in Chicago, and we are working on postponing our August 15th wedding to next year (April-June). It's been very stressful since we've had to go through canceling all the events related with a wedding and arguing with AirBnBs and airlines on the phone. It just adds to the stress and anxiety with all of this uncertainty. It comes in waves as well. We'll all get through this but it's definitely tough!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jillian. Stay safe. I hope you have a beautiful wedding

View Quoted Comment I understand the feeling. I’m 37 and want to start a family as well. I had to remind myself that the the marriage is more important than the day.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry we are in this boat. It helps to know I’m not over reacting. Hope your wedding is amazing.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for holding it down in Chicago Maddie. I posted because I needed to share with people in my current situation. People have told me “it’s just a wedding” “no big deal”. Fighting air bnd has been the worst which as you know add to the stress of things. I will NEVER book with them again. Hope you’re new plans come together.

Yes, I feel the same way, especially fear that there could be a second wave. I still haven't made the decision to postpone, but I do have my venue holding both August 1 and December 19 for me. Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment Just wanted to let you know that I am also in Chicago. My date is July 25th... is there even any reason to hold out hope at this point? I know Pritzker just released his five phase plan to reopen the state but I can’t imagine we’ll be at phase 5 before 2021. 😢

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Good luck, Anna! Yeah, we had been thinking that we may need to postpone for a while, but the release of the phases of reopening for Illinois really sealed it for us. I'm worried about a second wave in the fall as well. Hopefully by next spring we'll have fewer restrictions. It's definitely been a little tough to reschedule but most vendors are understanding.

Sending my heart out to you and everyone who has had to postpone. I just got engaged right before COVID-19 happened and haven't been able to get my family excited about my wedding. My engagement photo session in March was canceled, our engagement party was going to be in April, everything is off the rails. I was so excited to finally send out announcements but I feel like too much time has gone by now. I am definitely feeling sad about it. I just wanted to look forward to my big day. We're all in this crisis together though - at least here.

View Quoted Comment Congratulations!!!!
I’m sorry this pandemic has over shadowed your engagement. I would still send out engagement announcement with a link to your wedding website. It’s a milestone in your life that should be celebrated.

My date is July 10th, 2020 in Illinois. My fiancé and I believe best case scenario, we’ll be in Phase 4 by then, so we’ll be restricted to 50 people. I’m 32, and he’s 34. We’re dated for 7 years and don’t want to postpone to 2021, but we’re also afraid if we postpone until fall, that’s not safe either under the Phase plan. We’re considering cancelling altogether and having a private ceremony on our original date. We’ve already given our venue 2 deposits, and we’re afraid we don’t get anything back. How are you supposed plan, when there’s so much uncertainty? So frustrating.

View Quoted Comment It is frustration and heartbreaking. I don’t want to push my wedding to 2021 but I don’t want to risk mine, my future husband, family, friends, and vendors health and well being. We’re defiantly going to get married on our original date I just don’t know what to do about my October day. I wish you a very happy weddding day.