Wedding Planning w/ an Inmate Fiancé

Well I would say it depends on when your wedding is. If your wedding is approaching and you don’t have anything done then I would definitely get started. If you have time and it is important to you to share the experience with your fiancé then wait.

Any way for you to push it off a bit? Wedding planning should be fun! It would be a shame to look back and be like, well, it WOULD have been nice for him to be there…

How long will he be in jail? Do you have a date set? I’d prolly hold off on planning. Maybe start looking online at venues, flowers, dresses, etc…so you have it kind of figured out in your mind and can share some idea with your fiancé when he’s released. Pinterest is amazing!

I would wait until he's out, take a few days to re-adjust, plan something very small and intimate, then plan a vow renewal on the 1 year anniversary with more bells and whistles. I've not been in the same exact situation, I'm a veteran who was engaged to a soldier stationed in Korea (eons ago), and we planned to marry when he returned to American soil, I made all the plans, small and intimate but didn't take into consideration he needed to adjust to being back (I was once stationed in Korea too long before he was there and the mind has to re-adjust as it is a stressful duty station), well everything was set up, the day before the small wedding arrives and he's no where to be found, no phone calls, no text, I couldn't reach him, so before retiring the night before, I tearfully called the officiant and cancelled everything (thank goodness I had no vendors). When the fella did come up for breath about a week or so later, sobbing and with tons of apologies and trying to explain he just needed to "clear" his mind, by then I had the engagement ring neatly resettled in the ring box he gave me and said this should help clear your mind and I walked off into the sunset, so I could clear my mind and never looked back. As I said it's not an exact situation and idk how long your fiance has been away, but make sure he has some "space" when he's released. Make sure y'all are still on the same page future wise.

How long is he serving and when is your wedding? I'm sure it can get stressful planning especially with him not there physically

View Quoted Comment He been in there for 19 months and he supposed to get out in November but I don’t think he is Bc he goes to court in January. We was thinking December 11th of this year but I told him no Bc they don’t know what they are going to do.

I would not plan anything until he is out of jail. Planning a wedding involves signing contracts and non-refundable deposits. If you start planning and he is not released when you hope, you will be out a lot of money. I would also make sure once he is released he is able to work to help contribute financially to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yeah definitely wait until he really had a tentative release date, I would hate for you to plan and possibly lose out on money. I definitely would push it back

You can share your pinterest page with him if he has computer access. But, I agree with others and not sign contracts with deposits until you have confirmed dates. You'll be ok with planning. Many do it on their own.