Wedding planning problems.

Are these people in your wedding party (bridesmaids/MOH or groomsmen/best man)? If not, why are you trying to control how your family members dress?

No, because I didn't dictate how my family dressed.

You shouldn't dictate what your family wears the only exception would be if they are part of the bridal party. I can say my sister who was maid of honor never told me she hated the dress I picked. A week prior to the wedding, I went to David's Bridal and bought a dress off the rack in her size and the color the other girls were wearing and had it shipped to her overnight since she lives in another state no where near a David's Bridal. Our saying seamstress altered the dress for her within a day. My mom kept going back and forth on what to wear and literally didn't decide for sure until like two days before the wedding.

Unfortunately, unless they are in the wedding party you just have to let it go. Future sister in law wore jeans. Was she undressed? Yep! Did it affect my day? Nope!

We bought ties for our dads, and bought a bracelet for his mom. Other than that, we didn't tell anyone what to wear (besides bridesmaids & groomsmen and even they had some freedom with attire).

Is this situation more of a "You MUST wear THIS outfit" situation, or is it a "The wedding is cocktail attire" and your family keeps asking if jeans are appropriate?

View Quoted Comment I'm not trying to control my family's attire that's outside of the wedding members. My brother has continually insisted on wearing a Confederate flag suit (which I'm personally strongly against for my own reasons) and my sister insists on wearing something completely unlike anything else included in the wedding attire selected by the bridal party and my mother in law's (I was a foster child). Due to my background I don't have a father to walk me down the aisle, so I asked my brother and sister to do so.

View Quoted Comment My sister and brother are walking me down the aisle. My only thing was that they needed to be in sync with the color scheme and neither want to work with me.

View Quoted Comment They're both walking me down the aisle.. I'm not worried about guests at all. I'm really trying to get everyone matching and it just seems like they don't want to work with me at all.

View Quoted Comment I'm okay with everyone choosing. My biggest thing is color and for the girls my party had all already picked a the gowns they all felt beautiful in and confident wearing. The groomsmen all said black tie and the selected suits were great and that we made it super easy on them because we selected what we knew everyone would be comfortable in.


We're doing black and gold (true gold, not rose or light gold) and I can't get my siblings to agree to anything suggested and I've sent probably close to a hundred options by now. They're walking me down the aisle and will be a big part of the photos so I just wanted them to be matching with everyone else so the photos don't look off with some random color thrown into the mix.