Wedding Planning is challenging!

This is true for (most) everyone! You're not alone, trust me!

One thing I've found to be really relieving is spending time with my FH, and even just other friends and family, and not letting the main topic be the wedding. It's so exciting and sometimes, it's the only thing on your mind. But if you really set aside time to enjoy your people without the dress of the wedding, it really helps ease the stress of planning a wedding. Try to enjoy where you are and take it all in - engagement is so fun! Try not to let it stress you out too much. In the words of 'Betches Brides', after all..it's only one day of your life.

Good luck girlfriend!

Everyone’s opinions. I would have an idea on something then someone in the family would say “Or you could do xyz”. My mother in law was the most annoying one. I would include her after I made my decision because she wanted to be too involved.

Oh I misread! I thought you were asking what helped with stress!

I agree with Monica! I have been dead set in an idea and questioned myself after hearing other's opinions on it. People are very quick to tell you what they would do for their wedding.

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I asked both! You're good

Yes, I'm second guessing myself so much because of those outside influences, or having to argue with family about choices I'm dead set on because they're feelings got hurt because I'm not inviting Uncle Bob or whatever.

The one thing that really surprised me that I struggled with were picking invitations. Well technically they're still not picked, but just looking at templates online and trying to choose something which symbolizes the feel of your event, while capturing each other's personalities and how formal or informal language should be what details to include and AHHHHHHHHHHH

So my wedding is next year and while we have been soft planning the wedding since we got engaged 2 years ago, we have now gotten in full swing since end of last year. Honestly my biggest issue is since we are having a backyard wedding just making sure that we budget it all properly and spread it out throughout the year so it is easier to afford. Luckily we have found the best bang for our buck but when I get to overwhelmed I just step away for a few days and focus on other things.

For me it’s that there are more steps than if I’m planning at work. Instead of me picking three things and letting people choose the one they like best, FH is asking more questions LOL I had no idea he would have an opinion on fonts!
It’s a different type of planning than I am used to.

Covid was the hardest haha, being unable to predict regulations and having to be ok with changing things at the last minute.

I know, I totally underestimated how difficult it is.... The most challenging thing for us is just figuring out what the heck we want to do. For me, it's easy to book x, craft y, and email z, but the big picture stuff is hardest, probably because neither of us care a whole lot about exactly how it goes down. I was never one to dream and plan for my future wedding. I guess to help the stress, I ask my fiance to get more involved and share some of the stress/burden. We turn wedding planning into date nights so it's fun! Also I stopped asking my mom/grandma/his mom/etc their opinions on my ideas. That helped a LOT haha

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My mom: "I want you to have the wedding you actually want, which is why I'm dissing all your ideas for something low-key and low-budget in favor of something more expensive and traditional" *eye rolls abound*

I'm very independent and good at planning so I entered this thinking my fiancé and I would manage everything ourselves and make all the decisions together and everyone else would just show up? So most difficult for me was all the people coming out of the woodwork with their opinions, judgements and influence over everything from the guest list to the type of wedding to the location etc.

View Quoted Comment I am having to convince myself that Crane engraved invites are NOT necessary even though I want want want them. They are prohibitively expensive though. I ordered sone blanks but the look is not the same.
I am a grown woman, I know I can’t have everything I want <sad face.>

For me the hardest parts have been figuring out the guest list since my FH has a ginormous family and just getting my FH to do anything without begging lol. We had our DJ picked out and my FH's only job was to call him to officially book him. Took a good month to get that done. He just wants to show up and say I do haha. I have just about everything finished right now and he's been dragging his feet with going to get his suit and getting his finger sized for his ring.

The most challenging thing is having to deal with my mom and how she tried to control things a little bit. But the other thing is doing all thr small things and focusing on all the details myself. (Not saying my FH didn't help, he just wanted me to be happy and have my dream)

The hardest thing I had to tackle was the fact that my husband and I had to go through three venue changes, and even a food vendor change, since the original guy did NOT work out. Other challenges include the fact that none of my family went to the wedding, and everything.

So far the most difficult is the seating chart. I’m working on this & want to throw in the towel! Let them sit wherever they want!!

The logistics! I had some stuff where logistically it was kind of difficult for instance my venue for reception wouldn’t allow early entry like 430p was earliest I could get in there but my ceremony at a diff venue was at 5p so I had to hire someone to decorate while I was at the ceremony.

My biggest issue right now is picking a date 😭 I had a perfect date figured out but there was a big wrench thrown in those plans and now I feel like there aren’t any other days that work in the month we wanted. So now I’m trying to figure out different months that we could pick that don’t interfere with other big events coming up (another friend’s wedding, people graduating college, etc) and it’s stressing me out to no end. Especially since a lot of places are already booked due to Covid rescheduling

Believe it or not, nothing. Everything has been smooth. I am nine days to go and I got an incredible price on flowers, videographer, food and rentals.

View Quoted Comment Maybe you can pick a weeknight. It’s quite a bit less and then you could have more time with friends and family

We live in an expensive area, so sometimes just finding a vendor for a reasonable price felt impossible.

Mostly, though, it was that DH wanted to get married in the Catholic Church... I'm not Christian... and, well, things didn't go well.

Add in drama from the entire maternal side of my family, and I felt really justified in keeping most of my wedding info here on the forums, and not on social media!