Wedding planning advice while dealing with fiancee who is ill and disabled

I'm sorry to hear about your FI's diagnosis and health challenges. There are certainly a lot of unknowns and much on your plates. There's no doubt that this stressful time for both of you, both individually and as a couple. Have you considered counseling?

I have suggested counseling, but right now my fiancee doesn't want to do it. She says she is overwhelmed with having to deal with various healthcare professionals.

I am so sorry for these overwhelming challenges. My only thoughts would be to try and keep the wedding as simple as possible. Stress will not help either of you and can be detrimental to any health condition. The last thing you want to be doing is fighting. Don’t be afraid to make changes. What was important 2 years ago, may be meaningless now. Best of everything to you.

I would love to lend an experienced ear for you but I'm not an expert in this. Having said that I'm sure what you plan will be amazing!

With all you have going on, I'd at least strongly consider it for yourself. You need support, too. I agree that limiting the stress in your lives is important. Would you consider a small wedding now and a later celebration when you can? Assuming these arguments are about the wedding, what does FI want to do? Wishing you the best.